Thank you for the forum- I need to give a bit of background on my situation, as it is unusual- I have a son, 9 and a daughter, 5. Almost 2 years ago, my ex shocked everyone by announcing that he was gay, and was in love with someone else. No one, including myself, saw this coming-our marriage had always been considered one of the enviable and stable marriages by everyone we knew-myself included. He moved in with the other man, we divorced and the children are in my custody with regular visitation - every other weekend, one night a week with Dad. My family and friends argued that the children should not spend this much time with him since he was living with another man, but I believe that this was prejudice on their part, and the children have great love of their father, which I foster. My ex and I have been dilligent about not saying negative things about each other to the children (I know I have, anyway)The problem is this- my ex and I have some differences is parenting beliefs (since he left, not before, so I believe they are coming from his partner) Our five year old is very strong willed, and at this point is testing everyone- my ex insists she needs counseling, but recentlyhe informed me that he and his boyfriend both told her that they "didnt like her" to her face, and my son (9year old) told me that my ex's boyfriend is considering moving back to the state he is from I believe my daughter is being blamed for this and was told that. Should I try to limit her visitation until this is all worked out? I believe it is hurting her self esteem.