Dear, your nine year old son told you he had sexual feelings for you? Let me just say as the mother of an 8 year old that I have trouble understanding how a 9 year old would learn to verbalize that. This leads me to believe he's had a difficult life. If he can verbalize sexual feelings at 9, he's been molested. I know many kids at that age and they do not talk in a sexual way. they speak of things like the new avenger's movie and sports or legos or the book they are reading for school. Sex?? That goes right over most kids of 9's heads.
Take your boy to a counselor. And with all the abuse he's suffered, I'd expect some issues from him. You mention physicial abuse and I'm not sure who was doing this---- bio dad? Did dad expose him to porn?
Anyway, something is amiss here and look to your little boy as a victem of something and needing loving help. You must protect your little girl as well==== move her into your room for now. Keep him in his. Get some counseling for him. And you grow eyes in the back of your head and keep your three year old with you. I've never met a three year old that didn't want to be with mom anyway---- so your job just got harder but you keep her with you so you can make sure she's safe and then help your son-- figure out what is going on with him.
good luck
i came from a large close family with about 25 cousins, we all were like brothers and sisters , we are all adults now. and it came out about 2 years ago that my oldest cousin had touched one of my cousins then another came out then another, in total 7 have came out and noone had any idea of the others . it is a hard one to know , i also have a son with behaviour problems and the worry has crossed my head . to ease my head i bought a motion activated camera on ebay theyre about £12 gbp (type in lighter camera) at least if anything happens in your absence ( god forbid) you know exactly what and have concrete proof to show therapists to get the help he needs .. hope this helps . good luck
I guess I don't really understand the situation you are describing. He is your son but not your husband's son or your daughter's full brother? and he was in a different living situation before the one he is in now? Is that how he got abused? I would certainly talk a different therapist if yours is just poo-pooing the situation, but I can't imagine calling the police and having him removed from the home if he is your son and only 9. What do you think the police will do, throw him in a squad car and drive him to jail? They are not going to solve your problem. In your shoes, I would find another therapist right now and go yourself without your son and describe the whole situation and talk over your fears. Good luck!