I caught my son AND daughter MASTURBATING/SEX together!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HELP PLEASE!!

So, my daughter is 12 and my son is 14 almost 15 next month. they told me that they were gonna be alone in the room playing a video game. I was checking on them because i thought i heard screaming late at night... I went downstairs and opened my sons door and i saw my daughter and my son both naked on top of eachother kissing and touching penis to vagina.....!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  i have seen my son masterbating (masturbating) and sometimes my daughter but i know its normal for that age. my daughter ran out of the room to her own and my son jumped under his covers in his bed. I took away his phone and laptop to see if he was having any sexy converstaions with my daughter. I did the same for my daughter. i spent all night looking thru and my son apparently lost his virginity to his girlfriends when he just turned 13. and my daughter is just making out with boys at school and sometimes putting their parts together but with clothing on.... I HAD NO CLUE THAT MY CHILDREN ARE SEX ADDICTS!!!!!! I FOUND OUT THAT MY KIDS WERE HAVING SEX WITH EACHOTHER SINCE MY DAUGHTER WAS 7 AND SON WAS 11!!!!!! THEY CALL IT SNIFF DOG WHICH IS BASICALLY  A ********!?!??!?!?!? HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Kendradawn88]

First I would calm down and think, I know you must be very disturbed. I have never been in your situation, but my advice would be to get them evaluated both medical and psychological. By that I mean they both may need see a family counselor, or psychiotrist to find out the underlying issues as to why they would do this. Get them seen. I'll keep your family in my prayers and I hope this helped.

[Ashelen]

I have to agree with kendra. I've never been in this position, but I would take both to a counselor immediately. like tomorrow. and do not, for a second, even a nano-second, leave them alone together. Do not let them have their cell phones or laptops.

Children who engage in sex with siblings, especially at a young age, are at a high risk for having been sexually molested, and this is something you may need to accept as a possibility...begin brainstorming and thinking back to see if you can figure out who (if anyone) might've done this to one or both of them...are there any children they have contact with who may have been sexually abused? sometimes sexually abused children will teach other children these behaviors.

But in the meantime, get them in with a counselor immediately; ask the guidance counselor at their school for an immediate referral, you shouldn't need to tell him/her the reason if you don't feel comfortable, but guidance counselors can be a great point of reference and support if you need it.

[Ashelen]

sorry I meant to add...as disgusting and horrifying as this is (I know I would be devastated if it were my children), try not to punish them. this may be a very complex issue (it probably is) and there may be some underlying reason that this started occurring...so that's why you need to get them into a counselor ASAP so you can figure out how to respond to this, as much for your sake as theirs. As they grow older, there's a good chance that social stigma will teach them that this is wrong and they will discontinue the behavior even if you hadn't discovered it. But since you have, it obviously needs addressing and you AND they will need counseling to come to grips with the exposure of the behavior, and the behavior itself.

best of luck to you, my heart goes out to you and I hope you and your family find some peace in what has to be a very turbulent time.

[Missy4209]

I agree with u 100%. I have a close friend that went through the same thing she also use to be like your children, when she was younger she was molested and penetrated by family members in which her parents didnt know about it. Well she thought thats how everything worked like it was alright to touch your cousin or do sexual things because thats how she was brought up knowing. People say its a normal phase to experiment but i think thats a whole lot of crap... Do the counsellor thing or actually talk to your kids about it, As she got older she figured out that it wasnt right to do that sort of thing with family n seeked professional help i advise u do the same