I have a problem lying

Ok i want to change and i try but i continue to lie i lie to my parents and my g/f i mean i have no reason to lie but it just happens it comes out because im scared of loosing her but then i cant cover up the lie that i told and it only makes stuff worse what do i need to do to stop lying so much i need some serious help

[babydoll118]

hello my is babydoll118 and i am a lier. i cant stop lieing i dont relise i am doin it and i make up stories or make huge lies and at the time i do belive they are true. most of the time i cnt remember saying these lies when my friends confrunts me i dnt have a clue what thier on about, its being goin on for years and i have lost every one i love around me becaues of this, plz help me i dont like the way i am living and i am trying to change, plz contack my back thank you x

[AnnieBrooke]

I think it is a behavior out of your control, but that doesn't mean you can't get past it.  Go to a good therapist as soon as you can afford one, and start in.  You'll be pleased with how far you can get in a short time.

[Sneakergeek]

Hello everyone my name is Not important  but my story is.  I'm a liar, I didn't know why I did it at first. It took me years to know I was actually doing it, and people  around me knew I was a liar,  my parents and close friends and family. When I was confronted  about it I was extremely upset and had a defense mechanism. I thought I was right. My lies weren't any kind of lies but overexaderation of the truth. I would tell people about my life and tell people that I was a lot better off than I really was. I would drive my parents cars and tell everyone they were mine. I would lie about my jobs, even when I didn't have one. I would lie about the schools I attend. I would even lie about me having a son. Lies after lies after lies it was hard keeping up with them. Until I was confronted by my wife's mother who past away last year. She said its something that I need to Change about myself. Of course I thought she was crazy and she just didn't understand my side of the story. I started to look at myself more and more and more. Even though I realize I was doing it I still couldn't stop it's like my mouth would just say things i couldn't control.  Looking within myself I realize that I feared what people would think of me if I told the truth. If I said I didn't own a car and I take the bus I didn't have a job and im on unemployment I don't live in the best part of town.  Because I lived this amazing life when I was little nice cars, nice house but after my parent lost it all due to the economy I guess I couldn't let it go, I love having the attention of being the rich black guy with the big house and nice cloths. I guess I wasn't happy with my life and how it's turning out I wish I could do better. I wish I could take back all the lies I ever said all my friends that I'm not close with anymore because of it, all my true friends that tried to tell me the truth about myself and I was too stubborn to realize. But I plan on changing my ways  one day at a time, it's very difficult I must admit but habits are hard to break. I need to accept myself for who I am, I am an amazing father a hard worker ambitious individual who always seem to provide for my family I am also a great husband, my heart is big and that's what makes me strong.  That's why my son and my wife thinks the world of me. And they are the ones that matter.

[margypops]

This is the child behavior forum , but I do think that lying is an obsessive trait , very often passed on in families.I also think it is part of the person being oppositional , they have to say the opposite .It could be lack of the feeling of security that makes you do it, to better yourself in the eyes of others ?I like your last paragraph and it tells me you are trying hard to change and thats a good thing , well done and good luck ..next time pop it on an adult forum, if you are new here we have many groups and forums  .