Inappropriate touch in Kindergarten

My 6 year old Kindergartner was suspended from school on Tuesday for inappropriately touching a girl classmate.  Based on the story from the school my son put his hand down her pants and grabbed.  Nobody really gave anymore details to that.  

Since then my husband and I have had many conversations with him about right and wrong.

I am so scarred because I can not protect him from his own decisions.

Any advice on handling this?

[margypops]

Could he have seen this behavior anywhere , has he older  siblings ? It may be a good idea to get more details and facts than you have , ask what supervision was at school for it to be able to happen , was the other child in any way reciprocating ,

[SMK131]

Thanks for responding -

I do not think he has seen this any where but he has always been a precocious boy.  

No older siblings.

When I was at the school I was so upset by the situation I did not have a clear head - but do not think it would be a bad idea to get more details from the principal and teacher.

Any parents of boys that have experienced this - is this normal curiosity?
Some family members have said he should see a therapist  but I feel that may be taking it to far.

[RockRose]

I think most boys think about doing this,  they just control their impulse.  

Does he now feel embarrassed?  That's the key,  to make him to embarrassed to do it again.  We had sort of a similar incident - not really as bold - with one of my sons and I made him write an apology note to the girl,  and we went to her home and he had to give it to her.  He didn't want to have to do THAT again!

I think going to a therapist is way way too far.  

[SMK131]

Thanks for responding RockRose,

Yes he does feel very embarrassed - we also made him write an apology letter for the little girl.  

He really hates talking about it with us but we continue to bring it up.  I think for now we are going to take the proactive, instead of the current reactive, of talking about right and wrong.

Today was his first day back at school and it seemed to go ok.  I am just hoping this is in the past.

[Ndaba]

I can relate to what you are going thru as my 7 year old pulled down a girl's trousers down. we have talked with him at length, explaining touching and being touched and we hope it wont happen again. We didnt take him to therapy but we did talk to the health nurse and doctor who said it happens around that age but we should keep an eye on him around around other kids to see if it was just a one off thing or he does it all the time and we just didnt know. So far we havent seen anything. Unfortunately for us the other parents wont talk to us so we didnt get a chance to apologise or for him to apologise to the little girl.
I can tell you the last two weeks were not easy but we are slowly letting it go and concentrating on teaching our child to be the best he can be.

[SMK131]

Thank you for sharing - I hear that often that some boys are just more curious than others.

You would hope that the other parents would understand that it was a bad decision and not to hold it against you or your son.  And with that knowledge be cautious not to put the children in that situation again.

My sis has 2 boys and it is hard because neither of her boys acted this way.  So I always feel like they (my family) are looking at him, my son, as if something is wrong and the comments of " he needs to see a therapist does not help".