Hi. My son is 4 years old .I have always noticed he does not play with other kids or engage rather he will just stay in the background on his own while other kids are running around playing why what does it mean?I used to think it was because it was. Kids that didn't know english but now I don't know what to think I was watching him in the playground all the. Kids were running around playing and he was just walking around it hurtt me so much..why ?
he could be a shy temperament (normal), he may have anxieties, or it could be a developmental delay. It is normal for children to be shy around children they do not know or in larger groups. How does he do with kids in the neighborhood, other kids in the family, or in small playdates? If he does not interact with children he knows, then I would be concerned.
What is he doing while he is in the background? Does he watch them (probably anxiety or shyness) or seem unaware or uninterested (possible developmental delay).
Hi there. It is not bad to be different! Everyone is unique and an individual.
But, I know how it is when you see that your child is standing out from the crowd. I witnessed the very same thing with my child in preschool and it broke my heart. My son has sensory issues that made his social skills delayed. He had a hard time playing with other kids. When it is a reason like that beyond just being a loner by nature, then it is important to help them.
My recommendation, regardless of the reason why he is alone, is to start socializing with him to help him practice. I'd try to set up some one on one playdates with kids at school. You can meet at a neutral spot like a park and then you stay engaged with the kids while they play and help your son learn the ins and outs of playing with a child. And if he has no trouble with his skills, you just be there for encouragement to interact with other kids. My son did have some trouble and I guided him through it. You can also have a play date at your house. Again, stay near by to help your son. Keep those short, one to two hours only at his age.
Then he'll build a comfort level with some kids in his class and build his social skills. win win.
My son has a developmental delay and wanted desperately to play with the other kids. He just didn't quite know how. Things that came naturally for others, did not for him. I had to teach him. And-------- certainly a language barrier would make it even harder.
good luck dear
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