Is he like other 6 year old boys? (Having difficulties)

[aidanm]

My 6 year old son is very bright (loves to take things apart and put them back together and especially love's puzzles) and very helpful with anything we ask him to do however, he likes to tease and plays ruff with his 3.5 year old sister and has a very hard time staying focused (talking to other kids) while playing sports.  He also has been getting into trouble in his k-class. Here is what the teacher has recently told us:

I just wanted to let you know that Aidan has not been getting seal bucks because he is bothering children who sit close to him.  He has been asked to stop chasing others on the playground and even had a time out and still when I said he could get up to play he went back to chasing and grabbing children again.  He is also playing with pretend weapons, (guns and swords) pretending to shoot or stab other children when the rule is no pretend weapons at school.  He is not cooperating with instructors during PE and Music.  He also said when a student was absent yesterday that it was because he was dead. I talk to him a lot about making the right choices and thinking before he acts.  I also tell him that he is very smart and knows the difference between the right and wrong actions.  He also will not accept responsibility for his actions.  He always says he did not do it when other students and staff see or hear him do it including myself.  I know that you work with him at home on his behavior.  One idea is that when he does not get a seal buck at school there is a consequence at home.  Something that has meaning to him and that he would regret.  The other is to reward him if he gets a seal buck every day during a week.  (yellow ones do not count because they are about the bus not the class).  I did tell him that I would be emailing you about his behavior.  I want him to know that you and I are working together.

Sincerely,
Kevin M.

[helpmomplz]

HI Kevin M,
I've been little bit in a same situation but little diffrent. My boy wouldn't follow directions just does what he feels like to do. Or it is hard to stop what he is doing right now.

ABOut reward thing for not getting seal buck will not really work. As child will do it to please you and also starts manupulating around it. Child needs to feel and understand the responsibilty and reason behind it and also the concequences. Instead taking away previlages such as watching tv etc might work.

Also check on what kind of TV programs he watch and how long? Even if he watches disney not all programs we as a parent would approve. Also check for computer games as well.
Put him in some kind of game where he gets exhausted or extra energy is chanelized. If he is a rough boy in nature then may be putting him in rough games such as foot ball, ice hockey where being rough is socially acceptable and once he gets to be so there he won't take it out at other places such as at school etc.

[margypops]

Does you  play the rough games with him aswell it may be feeding into rough behavior as he does this with his sister, also, and he thinks its okay and does it at school, if he likes boys rough hosing get him into a junior Judo class or similar where there are rules of behavior and curtail the home rough housing.Perhaps if you dont play these games with him also with the guns and no other relative is, he is copying something from the TV or PC, good idea not to have any violent stuff on when children are around.

[margypops]

Sorry for the spelling .my excuse is a sticky key board