Is my husband molesting my daughter?

[JolieinIndy]

Okay. I can't even describe how I feel right now, but I'd like some opinions from the outside world.
I feel as though my ex-husband(we are/were trying to work things out) has been fondling/molesting my 2 1/2 yr old. From the time she was about 6 or 7 mths I have had a weird feeling about it. I remember when she was an infant he had instead of pat her on her bottom, he was patting her between her legs, in a "fatherly" way. Only thing was, to me there was nothing "fatherly" about it. When I confronted him about it he'd get really upset , violent, and in my face. As time has gone by, there have been many other incidents of me feeling like he touches her inappropriately.  2 incidents have happened most recently that makes me feel really uneasy. One night I woke up in the middle of the night to my daughter nonchantly saying "No.Don't" repeatedly. I opened my eyes and his arm was extended out towards her and his hand lay right at her private. He pretended to be sleep and a few seconds later turned his body and put his back to us.---The other incident happened just last night/early this morning. I felt him roll over and put his arm around me. I had the baby on the other side and was facing her. I searched for his hand to hold it and welcome his embrace but I found/felt his hand on my daughters' private. On the way to drop him off to work, I confronted him. He blew up and told me that I have mentally problems because I keep staying with him and accusing him of doing such terrible things and that he's done with me ( This is what always happens) And then I start to second guess myself because I DONT WANT TO BE WRONG. In this case, I wish it was me with the problem...but I just don't I am. Please HELP

[AnnieBrooke]

Ps -- As goes without saying, she should NEVER be left alone with him for even three minutes.

[Ashelen]

My stomach turned reading this...I actually had to walk away before I could come back and post.

Get your daughter to safety, call the cops, do whatever it takes to keep this man away from her.

If it's proven that he was 100% innocent (there's not a doubt in MY mind that he's guilty if what you have described his accurate) then yes it will stir things up but it would be worth it just to be safe.

Get. her. help. NOW. not tomorrow, not next week, tonight.

Best of luck...I can't imagine how much it hurts to know that your baby is being hurt by one of the two people she should be able to most trust in this world. But that's no excuse, and not wanting to rock the boat is no excuse. get her help immediately. If that means packing up and going to your moms tonight and living with her until the court proceedings have finished, do it. Just get them away from each other now. And take her to the doctor tomorrow.

I'm so sorry you had to experience this, but I'm even more sorry for your baby. Hopefully this situation can be resolved quickly so she is as safe as possible.
Good luck...

[margypops]

this is not t normal. your gut is telling you that, she has already been molested by him , . how many signals do you want, protect your child ..

[mammo]

I totally agree, what he is doing is not normal for a father.  The fact that he gets so defensive is because he knows he is doing wrong.  Protect your daughter, you both deserve better!  Good for you for staying on top of this!

[AnnieBrooke]

Honey, if he acts like this, with the blowing up and saying he's done with you and all, I'd make plans to get out or to get him out.  Your first duty is to your daughter, since she is a helpless child.  Talk to a lawyer so there is documentation of what you are seeing and feeling, and make some plans, and leave or have him leave.