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Is this appropriate father daughter behavior

I've been concerned about my 3 year old granddaughter.  Her father kisses her with an open mouth that covers hers in a way that seems more sexual than appropriate and fatherly.  He also behaves in immature ways with her, whispering and teasing her in way that seems odd. He also lets her touch his crotch when she asked "what's this" instead of explaining this is not appropriate in a simple straightforward manner.  I'm not normally a person who overreacts and I think being open, loving and affectionate is good, but there is something about the way he touches her and the overall dynamics that makes me uncomfortable - and makes me wonder what is happening when I'm not watching.  My daughter (the mom) doesn't seem to think anything about it. When I saw this forum I thought someone could shed a little light on the subject.  It is a sensitive issue, but I think it's important to address earlier than later.
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781184 tn?1319024267
I agree with you 100%
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I think you are describing it best, except the kisses almost look like the tongue is involved and just not like you would expect for a dad.  It doesn't help that this guy also has done some extremely irresponsible things in his life recently and their relationship (he and my daughter) has horribly dysfunctional with endless bickering.  They have divorced and are not actually living together anymore, but he is there a lot.  Bottom line is I hope there is no reason for concern, but I just don't want it to be one those just-ignore-it-because-it's-not-my-business situations that go bad and then regret not being more proactive.  Thanks a lot for your insight.
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13167 tn?1327194124
Can you be more elaborate about the kisses?  I agree that some children (usually babies,  actually,  with spitty little mouths) try to kiss your mouth with theirs open.  Is it a quick kiss or is it the kind of long kiss that would make you uncomfortable even if two adults were doing it?  

It's hard to get a picture of what you're saying.  There are fathers who treat both daughters and sons more like playmates,  teasing and carrying on and wrestling and giggling and not taking an adult role model of leader,  but rather,  the way two children would play with each other,  but it's not sexual - it's just inappropriate for a parent.  

Does that sound like what's happening?
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Most of it is not that bad.  Many young children give their parents open mouth kisses.  All dads whisper and tease their kids, it's part of being a dad.  The crotch part is pushing it, but she is so young that right now it isn't that big of a deal.
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