Jameson 2003 Long Ago

[Neiceybabe]

Do parents not google, read books, or search for developmental stages for their children?  I have been worried about certain behaviors as well!  However, my research and observation has schooled me on the do's and don'ts of a five year old.  Development is at a stage of somewhat "disarray" for the five year old.  This stage is so fragile that we as parents almost must NOT interrupt the process of learning and/or confusion they are encountering, but instead endure, be interjectinting to boundries within limits, and utmost and adoringly praise the positive milestones that they the children are proud of themselves!  These unselfish behaviors, as parents we must regress to again understand them, are the very tools we must use to enhance the brain development and confidence of our little ones.  This will breed well structured individuals later.  Patience!!!  These little guys are emulated us, and the are proud!  Do not classify happy overexcited behavior as a negative thing because your patience level is low!


This discussion is related to 5 year old boy.

[margypops]

Totally agree with your post, Parents do come here to forums aswell for input from others who have been through or are going through, upsetting ,concerning   issues with their children, books and googling are great, I advocate that all the time, but nothing beats the communication between people with knowledge .Your post speaks the truth as I see it , thank you

[specialmom]

I don't really understand your post.  Do you think that being concerned abour your child is being impatient?  That puzzles me as I thought looking out for our kids is our job.
All children are very different and overzealous and excitable for a 5 year old is nothing unusual.  I've got two boys, one 5 and one 4 that are the definition of this.  I don't expect my children to behave all the time nor do I ever try to squelch the joy of their youth.  I do what I can to extend it for as long as possible.

But when a parent has a child who is struggling----- it is prudent to try to understand why.  This time of year----  many kids enter into school where things are expected of them.  An experience teacher has seen loads of kindergarteners come and go.  All are chatty, all can't follow rules every second, all have trouble sitting still, all can get wild.  But not all receive notes home or are told they stand out from their peers in this regard.  When a parent comes here with this situation-----  it has nothing to do with patience.  It has to do with helping that child get off to a good start in school.  Our self esteem begins in the toddler years and can last a lifetime.  Being in trouble every day at school is going to take it's toll on a 5 year old.  And if you can work on something to help them adjust better----  I think you'd be a bad parent for not doing it.  There I said it----  I don't understand the resistance to helping our kids.  Not every behavior issue is a delay or psychological disorder-------  but kids may need help regardless of why it is happening.  (including immaturity---- a more so than your typical 5 year old's lack of impulse control, etc.)  
And as a  mother of a delayed child and one who isn't-----  there IS a difference in kids.  
You need to be patient with people who educate themselves to help their children regardless if it is something like a delay or if they just are trying to get some strategies for handling situations with their kids.

[margypops]

Unless I completely misunderstood what you were saying I thought you were speaking positivly .I agree that children of 5year old are in Disarray' and fragile .I think you are right when you say 'Do not classify  happy behavior with something negative ,Thank you for your inciteful post