Kissing Penis's

[Confused825]

I was getting my son ready for daycare the other day, and found him in the bathroom staring in the mirror.  When I went up to him and asked him what he was doing, he said, 'Mommy I am sorry for kissing ****'s penis.  The person that he is talking about is another 4 year old at his preschool'.  I let him know that it is wrong for him to do this and that his penis is private.  When he left for preschool today, I let him know that if it happens again, to tell the boy and tell his teacher, and that this is not allowed.    (He is saying that they both did it to eachother, but that the other boy asked him first).  Not really too sure where to go with this.  The other boy and my son do not get along the majority of the time, they both vie for another boys play time. Do I speak with daycare or the other kids parents?  I don't want to overeact and cause embarrasment for him and create a problem that might be normal.  My boy is a curious one, I have found him 'playing doctor' as well as showing other boys his penis, but this seems a bit more.  Any adivse is appreciated. . .

[AnnieBrooke]

Did he say it as though it was done as a dare or harassment, or did you think this was done for the sexual aspect (as much as a small child can understand sexuality)?

[HughG]

4  year olds  Generally  dont  Dare or Harrass.  The Other  kid  Who began  this issue has  obviously become  interested  in this Game....I wouldnt  be  terribly  concerned Unless you  become aware of "more of this behavior" going on at which Time I would  want to know  where  are the teachers and aids  if it continues i would  suggest  you take it up with  the teacher that purhaps   the other child  is or has been  abused .......by an older  sibling or step  or  who knows  what ...  You  hear  storys  way too often about "that sort of thing Too  Without  Drilling your  son stay  aware  be alert to his  behavior  and any  changes  or  Further  advancement... of course  but  IF you  make it  into a big deal and its  Just  a curiosity that happened  at least you Havent cause  some behavior  change  By  making it  stand out ....

[margypops]

It is possible it would happen again so I dont think you are over reacting if you speak to the teacher as it happened at school, by the way is no one supervising there ?