MY 4 YEAR OLD TALKS BACK

I HAVE A 4 YEAR OLD BOY THAT TALKS BACK TO ME AND EVERYONE. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO WITH HIM. THIS STARTED WHEN HIS DAD TOOK OF WHEN HE WAS 2 YEARS OLD. HE TRYS TO HIT ME AND TALKS BACK. HE THINKS HE HAS TO GET ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING AND WHEN HE DON'T GET IT HE GETS MAD AND TRYS TO HIT ME AND SAYS I DON'T LOVE HIM AND HE DON'T LOVE ME. CAN YOU HELP ME?

[supermomma531]

It sounds like your son is having issues with you and his dad splitting up and he probably blames himself for it but there is hope. He sounds like he needs as much love and attention that you can give without breaking the bank. He has always been old enough to be told no. If he wants something and you agree to get it for him, then he needs to earn it with good behavior. Also getting him involved now with house chores such as cleaning his room, putting away toys, drying dishes, helping you with little things at supper time such as getting certain things from the fridge like the veggies or getting you the bowls or something you need. He needs to spend quality time with you and gentle reminders of how his behavior is whether it is good or not so good. Maybe a reward chart for positive behavior and for every chore he completes with or without you. He needs lots of love and reminders of how much you love him and how much his family loves him. Praise him as much as possible for the good things he does even if it is something as simple as reading a book or being nice to you or somebody else. By the way, where is his father? Is he in his sons life? Children need their mothers and fathers. I think that your doing a great job in raising him. I hope that you have help even if it is a sitter that can relieve you for a few hours a week. If need be, take him to see a counselor. Maybe family counseling. This will help you out tremendously. How is he with other children? Does he yell and scream at them? Tell him that his behavior is unacceptable and what is expected from him. Don't give him anything until he can learn to respect you. This can only be taught by example. Wake up everyday with a clean slate. Don't go to bed mad or angry at him. Everyday is a new day, treat it like one. Good Luck.