MY 7 YEAR OLD IS GOING INTO MAD RAGES

[CHOOCH75]

MY SON IS SEVEN AND HE HAS STARTED TO GO INTO THESE MAD RAGES. HE DOESN'T HAVE A TRIGER THAT MAKES HIM ACT OUT. I AM WORRIED BECAUSE I AM ILL AND I AM SCARED THAT HE IS GOING TO HURT ME ONE DAY IF I CAN'T HOLD HIM DOWN. AFTER HE IS DONE USUALLY AROUND TWENTY MINUTES HE STARTS CRYING AND SAYING THAT HE IS SORRY. I AM NOT SURE WHAT MORE I CAN DO. I HAVE TRIED HOLDING HIM. I HAVE TRIED SPANKING HIM. I HAVE TRIED TAKING THINGS AWAY. DO YOU HAVE ANY THING THAT YOU THINK MIGHT HELP.

[kissmyweeks]

my lil boy does this also. he is seven also but he didnt just start.been going on for a long time. but like you said only with me. not anyone else. he gets mad about something i tell him or even ask him to do. now not every time just at random. and he goes mad. yelling,spitting, up in my face hits suff, kicks, stomps,you name it he does it. tells me when he gets in trouble and or a spankin that i just want to hurt him. i dont know what to do. and no one else has ever seen a fit like this because he only does it around me. he also says later he does not know why he does it knows its wrong and is sorry and he loves me and knows why i dont want him doing these things and that he should not act like that. but it happens over and over again. i let him know and we talk about other ways to be mad but it never works. he knows i love him and i tell him i love him so much and thats just why i dont want him acting that way and will help him anyway i can! but i let him know its not acceptable in the house school or anywhere.

[althepal39]

Good advice..  

[ShaolinZen]

I would seriously look into his dietry intake. You would be amazed at the difference a balanced and healthy diet can have on a childs mental well being and the destructive nature artificial additives can have on mental well being. Here is an article on the problem:
http://prismwebcastnews.com/pwn/?p=827
You can get a dietry specialist to analyse the situation if you feel its an avenue you would like to persue. I personally recommend it not only to children but to adults alike

[althepal39]

Well, he sounds like a good kid - and he sounds like he is trying.  It's hard being 7!!  My son is 9 now and whenever he seems like he's picking a fight with me or being beligerent for no apparent reason - I know that he's either stressed or tired or something or someone is bothering him.  I try to give him a break - but it's hard sometimes!    Well, sounds like your doing a great job.  Hope everything goes well for you both! :)

[CHOOCH75]

He went from a private school for kindergarten to a public school for first grade. He did like it at first then his teacher had to leave and he was really unsure about the new one for a while he would come home saying all kinds of crazy things about her. I mad an appt with the teacher and voiced our concerns and it seems to be getting better. We actually had a lunch date on tuesday and we had a long talk. He has really been trying to act better. I am still not sure what gets him so mad. He tells me stuff like I like it so much better when I am nice and I tell him me to. I said is it really that hard to be good all of the time he said well sometimes I just can't. I just told him that when he feels like he is gonna get really mad to try and go to his room until he feels that he can calm down. We will see how that goes. Thank You for all of the input.

[althepal39]

Well, maybe it's something at school?  My son used to be a BEAR when he came home from Kindergarten - soooo nasty to me - and the teacher said he was so quiet and sweet in school..  And I know he HATED going to school - he cried every morning and every night.  It broke my heart - but he had to go.  And he would be good all day long.. and then when he got home - it all came out.

They save it all up for the person they are closest to - where they feel safe to let out all their frustration I guess.   Something is probably stressing him out. .  What does he say about school?

[CHOOCH75]

HIS FATHER WAS NEVER IN THE PICTURE. HE HAS ALWAYS BEEN RASIED BY ME AND MY EX-PARTNER. I TRY AND SPEND ALL THE TIME I CAN DOING THINGS WITH HIM. HE HAS ALWAYS BEEN A LOVING CHILD WHO LOVES TO HELP. THIS HAS ONLY CHANGED OVER THE LAST FEW MONTHS SINCE HE HAS STARTED GOING TO A PUBLIC SCHOOL. HE ALWAYS TELLS ME I WISH THAT I COULD BE SMALL AGAIN LIKE THREE THEN I CAN BE NICE TO YOU ALL OF THE TIME. SO HE KNOWS WHAT HE IS DOING IS WRONG. I JUST FEEL SO FUSTRATED BECAUSE I KNOW HOW WELL HE CAN ACT.

[althepal39]

Yeah - but you are his Mom.  Maybe he is afraid of something happening to you, ya know?  Is his father around?    

[CHOOCH75]

HE ACTS FINE WITH EVERYONE ELSE HE JUST HAS THIS ANGER PROBLEM WITH ME. WE HAVE OTHER PEOPLE IN OUR FAMILY WHO ARE SICK AND HE NEVER ACTS OUT WITH THEM.

[althepal39]

Maybe he is stressed out over something?  Like you being sick?