I know you mean well but, you are always giving people advice on how life should be. Are you some kind of a professional at any of this. Update ladies my husband has decided he needs to go to counselling with my son. Has apologized for what he has done. My son and him are trying to make things right. My husband has admitted that he is in the wrong and him and our son have taken sometime together as father and son time.
Plain and simple, your son will be destroyed and his future will be bleak if you do not resolve this situation with your husband. Your son is already fragile due to the challenges of ADHD and Torrette's Syndrome. I am speaking to you as a former social worker who worked with abused children. You need to save your son.
I agree with the other posters. This man is emotionally abusive to your son. you shouldn't tolerate anyone treating your son that way. Please think of making some big changes because your son needs you to be his advocate right now. Good luck
I agree with the other posters. This man is emotionally abusive to your son. you shouldn't tolerate anyone treating your son that way. Please think of making some big changes because your son needs you to be his advocate right now. Good luck
Mommyof - if you look at the timeline, she's been married 6 years, she has a 3 year old, he's favoring his own child over the child that isn't biologically his.
I really hope this gets resolved somehow, i keep thinking about that boy living in a home where he's despised by that creep.
Serve him with divorce papers and tell him to get out. That's aweful what he is doing to your son. He's favoring one child over the other, why? You said your son is 12? Think about what the emotional abuse is doing to him and how that makes him feel. If this doesn't stop he is going to rebel against you and make the situation even worse. I have a 5 yr old with ADHD, they can be trying at times, I know, but what your husband is doing to him is NOT right. And not even talking to him now, husband needs some counceling, have you ever asked him why he does this? Do what's best for your SON. Good luck.
thanks ladies and no this is not a joke. As of right now he won't even speak to my son. I am not a Newfoundlander but, my husband is. I am an Albertan. We also have a 3 year old daughter and he does not treat her the same as my son.
I am so sorry. I know that you have another child (who happens to be treated nicely by your husband) and I can understand having a dream of a happy family and wanting to keep your family together, but you are harming your child by allowing someone to treat him this way. In my opinion, you are just as guilty as your husband because you are ALLOWING him to do irreparable damage to your son. Seriously--I think it's time to move on...especially since HE gave YOU the ultimatum. Like I said, you should have been giving him one--go to counseling and treat my son with love and respect or we're through.
Are you afraid of him? Are you afraid he'll get custody of your daughter together (I'm assuming she's his biological daughter?)? If you don't have the courage to end it, can you go to counseling? Tell them what's happening and ask for help?
Seriously...I know a woman whose mother allowed her step-father to treat her terribly and she will not even speak to her mother. Your son needs you. Please, please, please stand up for him and do the right thing.
Oh, I really, really hope this is a joke (and a very bad one)--I have known of a few women who stayed with men who were not nice to their children, but never this blatantly awful.
If this is for real: YOU should have been the one giving the ultimatum--treat my son with love and respect or get lost.
My husband was yelling at my 2 boyz I couldn't take it anymore I brought him to the side I said If you keep yelling at my 2 boyz and can't be a father you and I are done........He said I don't want us to be done......Now he is seeing a councelor for his anger cause he doesn't want to lose us he's doing better. You will get fed up with this believe me I did. Your husband needs help your child shouldn't have to go through this. I went through and after I had a talk with my husband he woke up. He so much better...... Tell him to be a father or get out!!!!!
typo: Calling anyone a child or an adult that you are in a relationship a name such as "idiot" is verbal/emotional abuse. This is intolerable.
You need to chose your son over this who is abusing your son. Calling a child or anyone that you are in a relationship with is emotional/verbal abuse. The exchanges between your husband and your son are very inappropriate and will leave peramanent psychological scars on your son. If your husband is unable or unwilling to change his ways and accept help in the form of family therapy you must choose your son. This the sensible thing to do. Best wishes...
And what does your husband expect you to do with your son, kill him? Go drop him off far far from home and then hope he can't find you again? What?
Why are you still married to this creep?
Is this a joke?
I'd ask your husband where he'd like his things sent.