My 3 year old does not talk very well

[Kasey0711]

I have become very concerned with the behavior of my 3 and half-year-old daughter. My daughter will be 4 in May and I do not think she is anywhere near where she need to be. Her first issue is that she does not speak clearly. She does have words in her vocabulary, however, in a sentence you will only be able to pick up one word. It basically sounds like she’s jumbling words together or skipping them all together. She is also very out of control at her daycare. When another child has a toy she wants, she throws a huge fit and proceeds to scream and lie on the ground and kick her feet. He has become violent with the little boys at daycare, so much so that she was on top of one little boy hitting him and had to be pulled off, only to turn around and hit her teacher. She seems to get frustrated very easily and does not take direction well. At daycare she seems to have a good morning but when the other kids arrive she gets very aggressive. She pays no attention to the smaller children in daycare. And I found this odd because she loves to play with her baby dolls. I am extremely worried she may have a learning disability or something else. I have had a meeting with her daycare provider and she has asked me to remove her from her daycare because her behavior is too much for the other children. What can I do for this? Is there something wrong mentally with her? I need to find this out. I have taken her to the doctors and they tell me she’s ok for a 3 year old but her speech alone is not right. Please help me.

[babblingfool]

First of all, does she see a family practitioner or a pediatrician?  Please see her pediatrician again and insist on a referral to a developmental pediatrician in your area for a full evaluation.  She also needs speech evaluation.  Her aggression may be the only way she knows to express herself since she is not talking much.  It sounds like she could benefit from a very structured environment with minimal stimulation.  Good luck!

[sonhaar]

My son was over 3 yrs. old before we FINALLY got his ENT/pediatrician to agree to do a hearing test. My son had several of the same "ISSUES" you referenced about your daughter.  But because he passed his "new born hearing screening" everyone refused to believe he could have hearing loss.  Anyway, long story short, DEMAND your daughter have her hearing tested - preferrably by an ENT.  This is not where it stopped for my son.  He barely failed the ENT test so because of his age the ENT ordered something called an ABR (automated brain response) test.  It's completely painless but due to young age the child has to be sedated because they have to hold COMPLETELY still for the test.  We had the ABR done when my son was nearly 3 1/2 and found out that he had permanent moderate/severe hearing loss in both ears.  Because he is highly intelligent it was less noticeable but I ALWAYS felt that he wasn't responding properly and when he was getting further and further behind in his speech I worried even more.  SO thank goodness I pushed getting the testing. He is now 4 1/2 and has the vocabulary of a 6-7 yr. old but still struggling to catch up on articulation, sentence structure etc.. Thank goodness we found it when we did or his delays would be even more severe in that regard.  Oh he also wears hearing aids 24 hrs. a day but he WANTS to wear them so he can hear.  What a blessing the technology we have today.  Best of luck to you.  It obviously could be numerous things but if I were you I would rule out hearing loss before you jump to other conclusions.  Oh keep in mind my son responded to most things he was just lacking in speech development, but as it turns out his hearing loss is only at certain frequencies which explained a lot of the sounds he was unable to form and why words were only partially stated etc...