My 31/2 year old son seems to be out of control

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My 31/2 year old son seems to be out of control lately. He is very aggresive with other children at school and other kids in the family. He pushes, hits, kicks, but while he is doing it he is laughing as if it's normal play. He is not angry or violent while he is doing it. Latley he has become very impatient with things, example if he is trying to do something and can't get it right away he will throw it down and start screaming "I can't do it". Both his father and I as well as his teacher have tried differnt things. We put him in time out but the minute he gets out he just goes and does it again. I've taken away his favorite things and he seems to understand, he tells me I don't want to hit or push kids, but then he does it again. I don't know what else to do, he is almost at the point of being expelled from school and that breaks my heart. Please help, I'm open to any suggestions! Thank You.

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margypops · Answer

so he is the youngest how do the others treat him do they all get on , could he have learned any of the behavior you describe ,he is aggressive at school has anyone been aggressive with him ? You say lately so he wasn't like that before could there be a trigger point that sets him off .?

margypops · Answer

so he is the youngest how do the others treat him do they all get on , could he have learned any of the behavior you describe ,he is aggressive at school has anyone been aggressive with him ? You say lately so he wasn't like that before could there be a trigger point that sets him off .?

Cathy85 · Answer

I have thought about that and that is what is so mindboggling to me, no there has been no significant changes in our lives. It's obvious he is looking for attention, but he gets plenty of attention from both my husband and I. Sometimes he gets all the attention! I stopped taking things away at this point, it wasn't working. I will try stickers, i haven't because we did the sticker thing for potty training and he didn't seem very interested in it. But it can't hurt to try again. I just don't understand, I think I'm doing all the right things I've been consistenly been puting him in timeouts, and that doesn't seem to be working a whole lot. I'm just at a loss here and I don't know what else to do. I was thinking of changing schools because school has become a big problem but I don't know if that would make anything better.

Cathy85 · Answer

He is the youngest of three kids. I have a 14 year old boy, a 6 year old girl, and he is the baby of the clan.

melipops · Answer

Hi, Has there been any changes in his life. It could be something that we feel isn't a big deal but little people have their own way of showing us that they are not impressed. He is obviously looking for attention good or bad. I know finding time for that one on one is tough but maybe you have been busy lately and he isn't getting that story time before bed. We have a date every fortnight with each child in our house they get to do what they like with a parent of their choice. It works they feel special and our relationship with them gets a boost. Try instead of taking things away constantly how about rewarding and behaviour charts. Stickers are the best... Take care hope some of this works for you.