My 5 year old daughter

Hello,

I am very concerned with the way my kid is at school. She keeps hitting people just because they are standing or sitting next to her. I noticed that it is mostly boys. When I discipline her I put her in the corner and tell her to stand there for five minutes. Then when she is done I ask her to tell me why I made her stand there. Most of the time I give her guidence on what to say and she does pretty good. The only interaction with kids that she gets is when she is at school. Although lately she has been sleeping over her friends house once a week and she does really well there. But then immediately when she comes home she seems to turn into a holy terror what should I do? I cant spank her because its against the law. I really would like to know how I can help her to be a better kid and person. To be social as well as have people to hang out with.

[specialmom]

Perhaps give her words to use.  "excuse me, you are standing too close.  Would you back up a little".  Kids at that age  have a hard time with space.  If you watch them, they either want lots of it or stand right on top of the person next to them.  What does her teacher do to address the situation?  

Also, there is a great series of books and within the series, there is a book called "hands are not for hitting".  It's a really posative message about how to treat our friends with a clear point---  no hitting.

I don't spank either but many people choose to.  It is up to the parents.  But with two boys, I didn't think saying "no hitting" so I am going to hit you would go over well.  So, we use time outs and withholding a special something.  I also am sure to reward for good behavior (notice and praise her for a day where she doesn't have this type of behavior)---- I don't reward with toys but with something that my boys would like to do (ball game, trip to the park, etc.)  I'd also cultivate friendships for her.  Try to go places when you have free time where she might interact a bit more with other kids.  

lastly, I've noticed something.   With having two boys, girls have the funniest reactions with them.  I think it is early flirting.  They will chase my boys, bump into them, do anything to get their attention.  It is very funny to watch and there might be a little of this going on if it is only boys she is doing this with.  Good luck!!