My 5 yrs old Daughter

My child has been recently apprehended by the CAS (childrens aid society ) there has been things going on that they were concerened about but the major thing is that she said my boyfriend was hitting her well he had punched her in the leg which is totally not true i am a stay at home mom and i am so frustrated because she the furthest from being abused she is a happy and very intelligent child my boyfriend has been in her life for one year and her real father has disappeared a year ago and hasn't seen her i have been having trouble with her lying i need someones advice CAS is making me belive that 5 yr olds do not lie and i know different. i personally think that she resents my boyfriend because she lost her father.I love my little girl so much and i need help!!!

[RockRose]

Tammy,  have you ever left her alone with your boyfriend or are you ALWAYS there when he's around her?   Does she have a bruise she's pointing to that you aren't 100% sure how it got there?

Five year olds do sometimes lie,  you're right,   but boyfriends of mothers are VERY common abusers of little children.  

Best wishes.

[momagain59]

I hope you choose to believe your daughter, instead of your boyfriend. You can always replace a boyfriend but you can not replace a child. It only takes a second to hurt a child. My niece's son was sexually abused when she was in the shower, at the store, and when she was sleeping. There is no way that you can be there every second. How did CAS get involved in the first place? Everytime I have seen a child removed for physical abuse, there were usually some kind of visible marks. Did she say why he hit her?

[redneckmom]

I agree.  You should believe your daughter.  Your daughter may not like your boyfriend because her father ran away.  She may also not like him because he hits her whenever you are looking the other way.  If her father dissappeared a year ago and this guy was in the picture a year ago, did you have an affair?  Is this why she hates him?  Well if so then I say good for her.  CAS doesnt take kids who make completely unwarrented accusations.  They also don't take children from parents if the child shows no signs of abuse and 5 year olds don't know how to be deceptive enough to make up every bit of what it takes to get a child out of a home.  Grow up and stand up for your daughter instead of your boyfriend.  It sounds like your boyfriend was more important than her father and more important than her.  Are you still seeing this guy?  If so you should be ashamed of yourself.