My 7 year old Grandson is pooping his pants at school and his parents have tried different methods of discipline-standing in corner to getting a spanking but it keeps going on and I am very worried for him. When asked, he tells his step-dad that he didn't want to get out of the thether-ball line, or just got lazy. He is a very bright little boy, but I am very concerned. He has 3 brothers, one his age (from step-dad's previous marriage) and younger 5 year old twins. There is alot of yelling going on all the time and his mom is always busy with work, and outside activities. His step-dad works full-time and has the kids most of the time in the evenings. I'm going to contact my family Dr. ASAP and see what he can offer, but anyone with any suggestions would be appreciated.
I dont think that the punishments you mention are a good thing, it be only create anxiety and make the issue worse ,who does the spanking? it could be that like many children they wait to go to the bathroom, or they dont like to ask the teacher, he may be constipated and it may hurt to go. I think it would be a good idea to contact the doctor as you said for advice particularly if his mom is so busy, maybe a talking to her would be a good thing also .Its great he has a caring gran mom to help sort this out it does sound as if he is upset .
I agree with margypops. He shouldn't be punished, and at this age he would be teased a lot for going in his pants at school, so I doubt it's by choice. I would make sure all is well at school, and suggest to the parents that it may be anxiety, or stress from his home life. It may be a physical problem but they need to find out exactly what it is! Sometimes we grandmas do have to step in. I hope you find a solution, I feel bad for the little guy. Good luck and take care.
Thanks for helping...actually this is my Grandsons "PAPA", but no less the concern or love. My son divorced my Grandson's mom when he was a baby,, and she is really hard to talk with. She is extremely stubborn, proud and feels that the world turns around her and not her kids and this hurts. I was raised believing that kids come first and foremost, but it'snt that way in her world. My wife and I believe that these problems come from the stress in the home as mammo seems to have seen right away. Three days ago, my daughtet-in-law called and told me that she had washed out her step-sons mouth with soap because he continues to lie about things, even thougth they are trivial. This shocked me but what can I do. She hold all the cards, if we make her angry, she will hold the kids back from calling or visiting. It's like we too are held hostage and we wish that there was something that we could "hold over her", I know this sounds mean, but we have to have some kind of leverage. She took away basketball from my Grandson because he waould have these accidents, and for the life of me, I can't seem to figure out why a boy his age would "voluntarily" have an accident knowing he can be smelled by other kids, get punished when he gets home or made fun of by other kids! She said her younger brother used to have the same problem when he was my Grandson's age, but she still punishes him. This is killing hid Grandmother and I.
You do have legal rights as grandparents and I would persue these. I would also ask the school to get involved, I'm sure they know about the accidents and are concerned. You could also get CPS involved (annonymously) and if she is found to be contributing to the boy's problem, you could get custody until she gets help, which I feel she needs! I just don't believe any child would subject themselves to the ridicule from other kids, and the punishment he faces at home for his accidents. Papa you and your wife may be this boy's only hope, find out what your options are and go from there. The kids do come first, and it appears your grandson is more of a bother to her. My heart goes out to this little guy and both of you as his grandparents. Let the school know what is going on at home, they will intervene and even get CPS involved if necessary. I wish you all luck and take care.
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