My Daughter

My 10 year old soon to be eleven daughter is still sleeping in my room. Since she is in my room her dad has to sleep in the guest room. She can sleep in her room barely 2 or 3 times a year. She can sleep in her own room when I go traveling for work but she still goes to sleep around 2:00 in the morning because she can't sleep, then she is tired in the morning and at school. I have tried everything from re- decorating her room to sleeping in there with her but nothing works. I would like her to sleep in her own room but she can't help it. She gets scared very easy and is fearful of everything. When she does try to sleep in her own room she gets up in the middle of the night around 12:00 and comes in my room. Once she slept in there the whole night and kept it up for about 3 nights but then she started waiting till around 10 or 11 at night and come into my room. Then she started to just stay in my room again. Now she won't even try to stay there again. She gets frustrated at night when she is in her own room because she can't sleep. If I put her in her room to sleep she always asks what if she can't sleep what time should she come into my room and I tell her to come only if she really really can't sleep. She always comes around 10 at night. When she has sleepovers with friends she always cancels it right at the last minute but makes an excuse like her head hurts or she feels sick. How can I find a nice and non frustrating way for her to sleep in her own room?

Thanks so much,
gan

[margypops]

Get firm and tell her she has to sleep in her own Room as Dad wants his bed back, then mean it be consistanrt dont give way. Thats all it takes.,it s not her its you enabling the matter, maybe get Dad to tell her she must stay in her own room.