My Five year old son

I am at my breaking point, let me explain. I am 35 wks pregnant and a single parent. My oldest son is 5, he like every first child was spoiled beyond belief. I can't say that now that i am pregnant again he is acting out because i have always had a problem with his behavior. At school he does everything from put glue on bookshelves to having accidents for no reason. My son can go for weeks at a time night and day without urinating on himself and then for weeks do it three and four times a day. he is a very bright boy and i know he is learning he just can't seem to get his behavior in tact. I have tried spankings, corner time, no T.V, no toys, I have even sent him with his grandfather thinking that a steady male would help. Nothing works, i love my son to death and would do anything to make whatever adjustment he is stuck in go over, but I can't figure out what to do. My fiance works out of state and is not really available to help me. Please help me save my son!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[momof2boyandgirl]

Hi Nikki!
My son was six when i got pregnant with my daughter. He was a only spoiled child for along time. And he went through alot of emotions. His doctor suggested that once a week i set aside a day to just spend time with him. So we would let him choose what he wanted to do and we did it. It really seemed to help alot.

Though i see that you are divorced. My sisters son went through something similar when his mom and dad divorced. Well it was when she decided to move on and got married and decided to have another child.
They go through so much in their little heads. We have no idea. Try talking to him when your having these problems and see if he will tell you whats bothering him.

Or talk to his doctor. You would be really suprised at how much they can guide you.

Just hang in there he will either grow out of it or you will figure it out i'm sure.

That age is difficult for them to even understand themselves whats going on.
It may be something little you can change to help him deal with everything better.
My first suggestion would be to talk to his doctor about everything thats going on and see what he or she says about it.

[momof2boyandgirl]

Nikki

I think sending him with his grandpa to spend time with a male figure is a good idea to that sounds like something i would do also. When you get to that point and single its got to be very hard.
How is your pregnancy? Are you having a girl or a boy this time?

[nikki827]

I logged off and can't log back in so i'm not sure how this is going to register but thank you so much for your advice. i am not dicorced my five year old's dad walked out when i was pregnant and about a year and a half ago started back dating and fell in love. So my fiance is the only dad my son knows. He just isn't around much.

[nikki827]

I started back dating, Not his dad. I haven't seem him since i conceived my five year old

[peskysmom]

I've been there!  Take him to his Dr and see about geting him in to see a therapist who works with children.  It may be just his way of getting attention or not.  My son has accidents when he was stressed out about things, this started when he was 5.  It may seem trivial to you but it may be something as simple as his coat being the wrong color. It helped him to talk to someone that wan't me.  You might even want to talk to his school counselor about this.

Good luck

[momof2boyandgirl]

That sounds llike great advice. The school councelors are really helpful with these things to. I could see why the little fellow has his problems its got to be very confusing and hard on him. Thats horrible. Some men just don't take responsiblilites. But the childs probab;y better off without him if thats the kind of man he is. Nikki please keep us updated on how things turn out. I'm sure everything will be ok but you are just going to have to get him a little help. You will be surprised how much this will change him.

[rebbecca]

there are classes for mothers that are pregnant with childern already. it helps the first born get ready for the new baby. you can call the hospital and they can tell you. good luck and congrats