Aa
Aa
A
A
A
Close
Avatar universal

My aunt's son keeps touching my toes in a very weird way.

So this has started almost 2 years ago, he's 5 now. I know it's okay of rchildren to explore their or other people's body parts but what worries me most is that he takes me to a room and tells me that this is a secret. he makes me lie down and asks me to and i quote him 'close my eyes, sleep and not feel a thing', so i half close my eyes to see what he wants to do and understand whether this is just some child trick or something more serious. And i see him getting his hands close to my toes and then he touches one of my toes and asks me so? do you feel anything? so i say no to see where this is going so he touches my toes again but in a more confident way only to ask the same question and he repeats this process only toucing my toes harder every time until i said yes i fo feel a thing so he worries a little and asks what did you feel? its nothing. Andwhrn i ask him why do you want to keep this a secret from the long list of people that he mentioned to me to which i cant tell he thinks a little and then says because this is our 'relaaax' secret. As if what hes doing to me is some sort of massage. I know i may be overreacting but how he wants to keep it a secret and how he insists on me not understanding whats going on and how he wants me not to tell anyone and keep it a secret is worrying me a little. Also, he loved to watch me put nailpolish and is very curious to find out about the process. i told my mom who laughed it off and told me i should talk to my aunt about it but i dont know how i should talk to her about that, we live in a society that doesn't really accept the idea of mental/ sexual disorders. Moreover, theres also this thing where he keeps touching anyones lips if hes sleeping next to them. He's a very lovely child, very sociable and friendly, nothing unusual or wrong with his day to day behaviour but this worries me a little. Thank you for taking the time to read this!
3 Responses
Sort by: Helpful Oldest Newest
Avatar universal
You should ask him "Do you like secrets?" if he answers yes tell him you do too! and you know how to keep secrets too. Then ask him who told you secrets? Then pursue with can you tell me those secrets i won't tell anyone and I will tell you a secret if you tell me.  Oh and your secret could be i'm going to bake cookies later but its a surprise! :)  something along those lines.. like a game to him.. Hopefully its nothing serious, I would be concerned too! I hope it all goes well!
Helpful - 1
Avatar universal
tell him that if anyone wants him to keep a secret about touching that he should tell you who it is and you will help him make sure he is safe.
Helpful - 1
Avatar universal
Sounds like he has a wierd fetish. U should probably stop doing it if it feels uncomfortable and see what happens.
Helpful - 0
Have an Answer?

You are reading content posted in the Child Behavior Community

Top Children's Health Answerers
189897 tn?1441126518
San Pedro, CA
Learn About Top Answerers
Didn't find the answer you were looking for?
Ask a question
Popular Resources
Fearing autism, many parents aren't vaccinating their kids. Can doctors reverse this dangerous trend?
Is a gluten-free diet right for you?
We answer your top questions about the flu vaccine.
Learn which over-the-counter medicines are safe for you and your baby
Yummy eats that will keep your child healthy and happy
Healing home remedies for common ailments