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My boyfriends 3 1/2 year old son told my 5 year old son to lick his penis, because that is what brothers do

On Monday I got a call from my boyfriend, father of my unborn daughter, he said I need your help, and then told me he caught my son and his in the room my son wouldn't talk and his son told him that my son made him lick his penis. I came home and I took my son to his fathers house and he told us that my boyfriends son made him do it. The next day I stuggled to call CPS and at about 1pm the little boy told his grandma that he lied and that he told my son to like his penis because is old babysitters son told him that is what brothers do, but the biy never did it to him. I talked to friends, family, school teacher,and a friend of the police department and because of the un stabble relationship my boyfriend has with his child's mother that I should report it and leave it up to CPS to decide what should happen worst case they  should be able to trace it to the root of the problem. I called the police last night and it got late but he is saying this is parenting issue and I advised i agree except for the part of the licking looking and touching is 1 thing but licking is another. I met this child over a year ago and I had a bad feeling about him from day one, I would mention little things to his dad, he is like a 16 year old in a 3 year olds body he talks and acts older but don't understand the consequenes of his actions. my boyfriend and I would talk about having a baby and I said no becuase I have fear of his child injuring my children and especially a baby, well in Jan 07 I found out I was preganant and I started having nightmares of his son killing our child, and even say dreams (thoughts). The day I found out I was having a GIRL, this happened to my son. To me is was a sign that I needed to get this kid away from my kids, and his parents need to get him mental help. Am I over reacting? Do you believe in GUT instinct? Am I to blame for not saying anything sooner (in detail)? Am I to blame for what happened to my son?  continued.........
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Do not be afraid to call CPS.  (I have done it before)  It is always best to be safe.  I would get information (name, phone or address) of the old babysitter and call regarding that child.  You can also at this time request advice on your family issue.  CPS will let you know if the situation is serious enough for them to take a report. (which it is) I would document the situation for yourself as well. (dates, times, description of incedent and the fact that you called CPS)   Sometimes a family may have one call to CPS about them and the situation doesn't seem serious, BUT  if you call, and the child's teacher calls, and the neighbor calls, a pattern is established.  You may not know who else has made a report, but you should do your part.  You can remain annonymous.  
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