My child is sexually acting out.

[cuzimthebaby]

My son is 9 years old, he is developementally delayed by about 4 years (acts more like a 5/6 yr old) He "showed his penis" to his younger brother and the boy I sit for, had them pull their pants down too.  That was that and it caused a HUGE rift with the other boys mom (cant blame her) so we just finally got "back to being friends" when here comes my boy and he does it again!
What do I do?  I know this time will cost me my friendship and I'm pretty angry
right now.  I've got a call in to our pediatrician to see if she has a counselor to help us but beyond that I'm stumped.  Is this at all normal?  I'm very very angry right now.  This happen today and then before it was about 3 months ago.
I hope someone out there can help me because I'm not handling this too well!

Thanks
Denise

[RockRose]

Is your son in special ed,  and diagnosed with a developmental disability?  

The first time,  the other boys pulled their pants down too.  Did that happen again,  the other boys again pulled their pants down?

I understand your embarrassment and frustration at losing a friend,  and your worry over your son.  But if the exact same thing happened again,  this mom needs to be just as mad at her own son as she is at yours.  No one grabbed him and yanked his pants off.  He did what he did because he wanted to.  

[cuzimthebaby]

First time all three yanked em down.  This time it was just my older son.  He says that the neighbor boy asked to see his penis but I'm just not so sure he isnt lying to try to get out of trouble.
My son has been properly diagnosed with developmental disabillities and is in, and always has been in special education classes with some minor main streaming this year.
I agree she should be angry with her own child too as I am with mine....she wont see it that way a bit though, last time it was made into such a big deal that she wouldnt allow her son to even speak to my kids and we live next door.  It was bad and I am guessing it will be worse this time :o(
If you have any more thoughts I like to hear them.

Thanks again,

Denise

[RockRose]

Cuz,  you don't want to be friends with her.  You really don't,  and this was just a really loud and painful explanation of that.  

As her children grow,  she won't blame hers for anything and she'll make you feel bad about yours.   She'll make other people feel bad about their kids and never accept responsibility for any problems.

I'm really sad to hear she lives next door.  If she lived a couple blocks away you could just dismiss her from your mind.  

Best wishes.  If you're in a rental property,  I think I'd consider moving.  

[cuzimthebaby]

We actually will be moving as we are looking for a home to purchase now.  You are the second person to say the same thing about the friendship and I guess it's time for me to agree there too.  Sad and a bummer but thanks for the advice.