My child is too adamant

[Gnanapriya]

Hi,
My son is 2 years 19 months old. He is going to play school. He doesn't want to
Sit inside the class , he wants to go out and play with toy cars in the school.
If someone tries to pull him out of that car, he goes agrassive and start beating everyone who pulls him out.
Even in class, he is troubling other children by going close to their face and irritating nor pushing r beating them so badly. Kindly help me out as what has to be done?

[Sandman2]

   Yes, the school also does need immediate consequences for him as well as at home.   Get the book, "SOS Help for Parents," by Lynn Clark.   You can find it on Amazon.  You will find it very helpful.

[nursegirl6572]

What have you done up until now, behavioral modification wise?  What does the school do in that moment?  What kind of consequences does he have?

[Gnanapriya]

2 hrs 30 mins is his school,,, hardly 1 hr he will b in class and rest in play area with the car,, if the teachers r the helpers try to pull him, he beats them so badly. He is quite at time out then in class he irritates other kids by trying to push them

[Gnanapriya]

If he is attached to any kid he gives his things else he will beat them so badly,, I'm continuously telling him not to beat..
At his school they said they can't manage since he hurts the kids who are very timid.
He doesn't hit badly at home since he knew tat I'll scold him...
He does this hair pulling outside when we say a no to his car play

[Life360_Dave]

Hi also, aside from any medical issues, childrens attitudes and behavior are taught from their significant others. Maybe take note of the way family interactions are taking place in the home and see if any might be contributing to his behavior away from home.
Things like conflict resolution between you, your husband and other family members.

[specialmom]

He's only 2.9.  So, if he pulls your hair====  you physical put him in time out.  Then tell him later what he'll lose next time he does that.  What does he love the most?  My older son loved his blankie.  I would briefly take the blankie when he had an outburst or something.  Then the threat of losing it was enough.  Consequences have to be immediate though.

Does he do better with warning times.  like it is time to go and you show him your watch and you say, when it gets to X, we must go.  And make it like 5 minutes.  When he is one minute out, show him and say one more minute.  And then when it is time, show him and say it is time.  

If he will not come, pick him up.  If he pulls your hair----  sit him back down for time out far away from the car.  Then walk him straight to the car and go home.  

[specialmom]

Well, how does he act at home with other kids?  

how many days a week are you sending him to this place and for how many hours?

What do they do to change the behavior?

And you've never seen the behavior at home?

[Gnanapriya]

Yes  I agree tat he wants to play rather than going to class, but the point is he is so aggressive when someone tries to take the things which he has nor if someone says no to whatever he asks for. Please suggest as what should be done to control this. We went to a mall last week and there was a play car which he was riding. When I tried to convince to leave home he was not ready to come, I tried calling him politely but he did not. When I tried to pull him out he hurt me so badly by pulling my hair. I am really upset as what should be done

[specialmom]

Hi there.  Well, he's VERY young.  Could he not be ready for preschool yet?

[Gnanapriya]

Sorry 2 years 10 months old