I have A four year old son who comes to visit me everyother weekend during the school year, and every other week during summer vacation. His Father is not consistant with dicipline, or rules. His father uses spanking as A punishment. I do not believe in that, though everyone is intiltled to their own parenting style, it is not for me. I try to stay consistant with the rules and punishment (ie: time out's). Although I know it is important to set limit's, and follow through with punishment, I sometimes find myself giving in out of fear. I live in A two bedroom apartment, and am very aware of my neighbors. I am afriad that when they hear my son screaming they may think something is wrong. I don't want the neighbor's to look at me, and think " There's that mean mom, jeeze, I feel so bad for her kid's." When really, I do the very best I can. I don't yell, and stay I stay calm. Do I let him cry it out even if it is disturbing the neighhbor's? What can I do??