My partner makes sexual comments to my 16 year old daughter

[rosypat]

my daughter who was 16 years old told me my partner had made a comment which made her uncomfortable.
She basically needs a new wardrobe and he asked her if she wanted one with a mirror because when she gets a boyfriend they can watch eachother having sex and he told her that in his country they have places where you can go  to have sex and these places have mirrors on the ceilings and walls. When she told me i was horrified.
Also on new years eve he was very drunk and he had had a little arguement with my daughter earlier in the day, when she said goodnight to everyone he was in bed and he flashed his penis in front of her but it was done in anger. She does not want to live in the same house as him because he makes her feel uncomfortable.
I am so sad as i love him but i dont trust him and part of my love has gone. I have asked him to leave. She has told me he has made other comments but he has never touched her and when i spoke to him about this he tells me he loves her and would never touch her as she is like his own daughter. I am so confused because i know he loves her so much. please help

[MamacitaTP]

"Flashed his penis in anger.."

I'm not sure how that makes it okay, a grown man flashing himself to another woman is immoral; a grown man flashing himself to your daughter is just odd; a grown man flashing himself to your teenage daughter is absolutely sickening, illegal and chargeable in a lot of places.

I think asking him to leave is a very smart decision on your part, go mom :)

[adgal]

It's always really tough when someone we love betrays our trust.  And that is what he has done.  He has crossed a serious boundary and betrayed your trust and love by being so innapropriate with your child.  You have done the right thing in asking him to leave.  I'm sorry all this happened, but am so glad it didn't escalate any further.  Your a good mom.

[PassinThru]

You don't need a weird person in your house. And maybe pervert is a better word than weird. Dump him before he tarnishes your lives.

[lisaob1]

tried to be more subtle...but yes......without a doubt rockrose....
he needs to be gone rosypat best of luck

[RockRose]

I think it's great you asked him to leave.  Enough.  

[lisaob1]

hi rosy,.firstly hun..i cant imagine how you yourself are feeling..you are in such a difficult situation..but ye know...well i think you know that what your partner has done is in no way acceptable...and in no way normal.joking or otherwise it is not the correct behaviour of a stepdad to behave...
my daughter is 18 and if her stepdad behaved in this way i would be mortified..he wont even walk round the house in boxers or without a t-shirt in front of her..
when you say he has made other comments towards your daughter also is worrying...as a mum...maybe sometimes go with your heart...