My youngest is out of control

My youngest will be two in May and does not talk at all, we have tested her hearing and we are doing other intervitions so to speak with the Childrens Services in out town.  Her behavior is already out of control, she screams, hits, bits, head butts, ect. to get her way.  If we are trying to go to the store it some times takes an hour to get her straped in her car seat.  It is a fight she screams and fits the whole time.  My oldest is three and usually takes a blanket in the car (she gets cold alot), and my two year old will through a tantrum until she gets it (or anything else other in the car have that she does not)....What is wrong with her?  what am i supposed to do I have lost it and the problem is only getting worse?  Could there be something that we are missing or what ??  Someone help me before i go NUTS!!!!

[marshastu]

Hi, I found a similar question on another forum from a parent in your situation. Here it is, maybe reading through will help you a little or at least you can see that you're not alone.



(Q) My two year old son won't talk. He understands every word I say and follows directions fantastic! He grunts and points to things or drags and pushes me. He laughs when I correctly say what he wants. He makes noises like Fire Engines, dogs, birds, cars etc. but he won't say the words for those objects. I rarely even hear a mama or a dada and those sounds are not even directed toward us but just as a passing babble.
Sometimes it is very frustrating, as there are times I don't understand what he wants and we both end up very upset.

I've heard of children not talking till their 4 years old. I don't think I could wait that long to hear just one clear word, even if it were just "No".

DY




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Posted by HVMA Ph.D. - KDK on July 26, 1999 at 08:53:46
Dear Dominique,

(A) There certainly is great variation in children's acquisition of speech. On the average, the two-year-old in this country may have quite a number of words in his vocabualry, while not using many of them on a regular basis. The child at two will be forming two-three word phrases, focusing mostly on words that name persons, things and actions. The two-year-old loves books, pointing to pictures and naming them. There is still reliance on facial expressions, gestures and body movement for communication, but a growing adaptation to spoken language.

Now, some children by the age of two are, developmentally, at the slower end of the spectrum. This may not be a sign of any abnormality. However, it may also signify a disability or a problem with the oral motor apparatus. It bears discussion with your son's pediatrician and perhaps evaluation by a Speech and Language specialist. So don't be alarmed, but don't sit idly by, either.

And, as a practical matter, try not to reinforce your son's communicating by gestures, grunts, etc. Encourage him to put into a word what he is trying to communicate. Give him the challenge, in a playful and patient way, to use his voice via words. Generally, once toddlers start this process, it quickly develops some momentum.

The information in the forum is intended for purposes of general education. Always address questions about your or your family's health directly to your physician.

[marshastu]

The tantrums may be just frustration at not being able to communicate with you, you can imagine yourself how hard it would be to get through a day with your mouth taped up and your little girl is living with it every day! Good luck in getting things sorted. I'll be thinking of you.

[A43738]

Thank you for showing me I am not the only one sometimes it feels like we are the only people who have this issue..and i know that she is frustarated at not being able to talk, but she does not have a tantrum until i dont give her what she wants or if we are trying to put her in her car seat or when we are out to dinner...i hope that this passes soon we are always sitting with her doing word picture assoceactions and even then she wont even try but i can call her name and tell her to sit down and she will i just dont get it