NEED HELP FOR 4 YR OLD!!

[cardsfan]

My 4 yr old(5 in Jan.) is very emotional. He has been desribed at school as having very emotional weeks. He gets upset very easily and tears come. They do go away very quickly though. His teacher says he gets upset when it is time to go and do the daily activities. He would rather still play. They say this is "normal" and will grow out of it. I am at my wits end. His teacher told me that in the 10 years of teaching, she has never seen a kid this emotional and sensitive. I have been the our doctor three times about this and he was evaluated by the school with multiple therapists. I was told it was a maturity thing and he will grow out of it. He is academically where he should be and has no problems there. He does seem very immature in comparison to the other kids. They seem more mature then him in many ways. He is a very loving boy who you can take anywhere. He is realle behaved at home and he is so easy going. AT school it is very different. Please help me, I feel there is something wrong. Am I just a paranoid motther, After all he is my baby!! Also, he has very "weird" tendencies like if he falls sometimes he doesnt want you near him and other times he wants you to kiss his boo boo. If you mention that he needs a bandaid, he flips out and cries and cries! What would you explain this is??

[jdtm]

An excellent book for sensitive children is "the highly sensitive child" by Elaine N. Aron.  It can be purchased on-line or a bookstore or borrowed from your local library.  Hope this helps.

[franksmom]

i guess i would ask a few more questions: has he always been anxious? how long has he been in this school environment?  and are you confident that there isnt something at school that is making him tense?  
i feel for you - im going through something similar with my 3 year old - he is not a cryer which actually in a way is 'better' to me than what i have which is that my 3 year old lashes out.   i think he is tense too, but responds by lashing out.   there's another boy who sounds like yours - he is also tense but sort of collapses inward.    i guess i would say this: i think there are quite a few kids like this. im not sure what your teacher is telling you, true or not, is helpful. each kid is different and there are tons of VERY emotional kids out there.
good luck and try to calm down.  that's what im trying to tell myself!

[elsie2005]

I have a 4 yrs old daughter who was like that when she was 2 and to make it scarrier, i was only 16 when i had my daughter. I really didn't know what to do and the doctors kept telling me it was normal. She use to hit herself in the head constantly and ran towards the wall and slamed it, ahe never complained, but i always did. Bandads were never her thing, ahe would always try to walk it off. But I am happily to say that they do grow out of it. I have come to realize that if you talk to your son/daughter on your knees, it works alot better than disciplining them. I just get on my knees, look at her in the eyes, tell her what she doeas wrong or what bothers you and the intend to listen to you more. It worked for me, i hope that works for you! ~ elsie