Need advice badly....

[MrsBertrand]

Ok so I have a six yr old daughter from a previous relationship, and a nine yr old step daughter she only visit on the weekends, I love them to death!!! Anyways as girls go they fight and hit, but me and my husband could not prove who did what and it hurts me bc my daughter was always getting in trouble so I decided to set up my phone where it would video the girls playing to monitor them . I went over the video and could not see what they were doing, but heard and I know the type of behavior to be normal for my nine yr old since she is older, my concern is for my six yr old, my nine yr old was making the dolls kiss and then said she would the Prince and my six yr old would be the princess, then told my six yr old to take her shirt off ....then just whispering lil noises then they resumed playing.....before this happened I had already separated bath time with them knowing already that my nine yr old has "explored" my concern is should i bring this up to my husband and if so how? And should I monitor them more often? I know growing up is a part of exploring and by no means do I want to punish either of them I'm very good at talking and explaining no matter the situation, but I personally don't want my six yr old exposed to it to early, she hasn't showed sighns of being curious or anything she knows basics as far as boys have a peepee girls have a vagina, and her body parts are hers and no one is allowed to touch them and all that jazz.....

[specialmom]

Yes, regardless of his discomfort, you have to protect your daughters.  Do what you have to do!  good luck

[MrsBertrand]

Thank you for your advice, I tried to talk to my husband but as soon as I got to the part about our nine year old asking our six year old to take her shirt off, he kinda didn't want to hear anymore....I guess this will be a tuff situation to talk about with him, but as far as my girls go I feel like I need to say something

[specialmom]

Hi there.  Wow, tough situation.  I agree that I would not want my 6 year old exposed to this either.  I know kids 'will' explore but I don't know if mine ever did . . .   it never appeared so and things like 'take of your shirt' seem pointed and being done from a specific thing she has seen or experienced (concerning).  

Yes, talk to your husband and maybe some gentle talks with the 9 year old.  What IS appropriate and what isn't.  Who to talk to if something ever happens.  Etc.  

good luck