http://www.ipce.info/booksreborn/martinson/articles/1994_children.html
Curiousity about ones body / other bodies / sex etc do start popping up around this age. So it isn't a bad thing. And it does seem to be a "show me yours, I'll show you mine" type of thing. And they won't admit who started it out of fear of getting into trouble. You may have to sit down with your son(s) and have a talk about it. Answer any questions they have. Let them know that it is okay to be curious, but they can talk to you and ask you about it. And let them know that even if it is "okay" with the other child, that kind of behavior and curiosity is not appropriate nor okay in any way. I don't really think that going to a doctor, or asking a doctor about this is really going to help. It may simply be a waste of time and money. Especially since your son doesn't seem to be upset or behavior changes due to the incident.
You may not get any response as this is an old thread you have brought up.
Thanks, I saw that I mistakenly posted under a community forum after the fact. Appreciate the comment and the direction : )
There is a Doctor Forum you can put your question to.
Appreciate your input though I don't agree that blowing things like this off is a good plan. That is how victims and predators are made. Really looking for an answer from a doctor...
I agree with the pp. Curiosity is completely normal at that age....it sounds as if it was a "i'll show you mine if you show me yours" type of game. As for who really started it first, you'll probably never know, nor does it really matter all that much. Both boys don't want to admit they started it for fear of getting into trouble...and in some ways, they had reason to fear this as the other boy was grounded for this.
Like margypops said, don't draw more attention to the matter and play it down. If this other boy is a trouble maker, of course it's your discretion as to if you want to keep them from each other. If you should decide that maybe this boy is not the best influence for your child, make sure you're clear why, as i'm sure he'll wonder why his friend is no longer coming over to play.
Best to play it down with your son, say no more about it especially as he isnt concerned , as the other boy appears to have instigated it there is some question of whether he has seen the behavior anywhere,and possibly if the other boy has behavioral issues, it would be best to keep them in eyeshot at least ,if they are to play at all. This would seem like normal curiosity, so I doubt if there has been any harm done to your Boy.However if the other child is acting out for whatever reason it wouldnt be good for your sone to play a lot with him ,you could keep it to times when you or your partner are there and can supervise.