How would you punish a child that has done this that is not mentally challenged? What should I do? I have a friend that this has happened to her son and they both touched each other! She does not know how to punish her son! Please help
You bring it up in a straightforward way: "There is something I have to tell you. My son told me about (Name) touching his penis and that this happened a number of times. As (Name) parents, it's something I know you would want me to tell you." That's it - clear and straightforward. Any experienced pediatric mental health clinnician can handle this. Re: the involvement of police, it does not necessarily have to occur. The place to start is with the child protective services. And let the parents of the boy know that you have contacted them or will be contacting them.
I am a little concerned about talking to the boy's parents. Is this a learned behavior? I mean, could or has he been molested before? How does one go about bringing this up so that the parent's don't get defensive or call my son a liar? As far as child services go, do the police get involved? Are there specific psychologists that focus on this type of abuse that I should seek out for my son? Sorry, for all the questions, I'm just concerned.
This does not fall into the category of normal. Yes, it is important to bring this into the open. First, go to the boy's parents and let them know what you have learned. Hopefully they wil seek help for their son. Second, report the situation to the local family/child services agency. Their involvement will help assure that the boy gets help. Third, arrange some short-term therapy for your son so that he will have professional help to deal with his reactions to the mistreatment he has experienced. And fourth, speak with your parents about their supervision of your son. A child of four needs eyeball supervision and obviously that has not occurred.
Added Info: My son also told me that it has happened "lots of times" :*(