Niece's Molestation

[BellevueJean]

My 3 year old niece came to her brother asking why his friend "licked her whooha". He immediately went to their mmother who questioned my niece and immediately called the police. My niece was questioned by professionals and they believe she is telling the truth.

First the kid, who is 15, denied it. Then he admitted it and said he didn't know he was doing something wrong. Court has started but they are not caring about the victim at all. A 15 year old boy forced a 3yr old to allow him to perform oral sex acts on her but they claim it was just sexual exploration. Even her attorney doesn't think he is a true predator. He will likely get probation. Everyone is talking about how he didn't know better.

Supposedly now he is being tested for Autism. Now that his actions are brought to light. My son has Asperger's, which if this kid has a form of Autism and made it to 15 without it being caught it would have to be very high functioning. My 10yr old son knows everything under your underwear is not to be touched by others. And that is a lesson most parents teach, and preschool it is taught.

I don't understand how his actions are ok. She was three years old. We hope she will forget and try to not talk about it around her because she gets upset whenever his name is mentioned. My sister is going through hell.

She was told not to publicly talk about it around town. The 15 yr olds mother, who he didn't even live with until charges were brought, is telling everyone. Her boyfriend has made threats against my family if we pursued charges but nothing has been done, we are told to just ignore it.

My sister wants this child to get help. Before he hurts another child. He obviously has problems. We just found out the school caught him looking at porn last year which I know is normal. But if he is curious about sex, why would he choose a toddler?

Help?

[BellevueJean]

The police didn't really want to do much. In this state there are juvenile treatment facilities for sex crimes. But they are all talking as if it is not a serious crime. If he were 18 it would go very different

My sister is looking into family counseling. Her husband wants to beat the kid to a pulp, which obviously he can't just go do. Their son is sitting there confused as heck, it was his friend who hurt his sister. My sister feels guilty because she trusted this kid around her young children. Their other daughter thankfully has not been touched.

[Sandman2]

   His actions are not ok, and that is why he is in court.  He would not be in court if his actions were ok.  He is underage, so probation actually would be good.  They would not send him to jail at his age.  Probation means he was found guilty and will be monitored.  I would think that this would be a wakeup call for his family to get him help.  
   The 15 year old is apparently from a broken family (if he has just moved back in with his mother).  Given that it is possible that non-caring parents did not notice the autism signs.  So autism is possible or not.  But it would help explain (maybe) why he did what he did.  Or, he is really seriously disturbed.  Either way, he needs professional help.
   Speaking of which, hopefully your sister has gotten some help on how to explain/deal with what has happened to her daughter.  It has to be a confusing, traumatic situation.