My son is very feminine. I try to correct him when he does feminine things by telling him that "boys don't do that." SO he'll play feminine games, but use masculine toys. For example, he'll use his stuffed animals or even his race cars to play house. The tiger will be the mommy and the monkey is daddy. So he's basically using other toys in place of the dolls. The other day, he took two small animals and put them in his shirt like breasts. When he saw me looking at him, he said he was trying to have a big chest like daddy. The only problem is my husband doesn't have a big chest. My son is just very smart and he knows how to disguise his actions. The way he talks , sits, walks is very feminine. Sometimes he plays with boys things like his race cars or his scooter or batman toys, but when the other little boys are over and want to play nintendo DS or some of his other games, he wants them to play house or school. If I have a party and boys and girls are over, he wants to play with the girls. The boys are busy playing with the racetrack or nintendo game, but he wants to play school or hide n seek with the girls. Am I obsessing over nothing? Is his behavior normal
Your son is who your son is. I would let him play the way he wants to play and try not to give him a complex. Boys can play house and play school. My cousin always played school. He loved too. I used to want to play with race cars and my mom would not let me because it was not for a girl. I really wanted to play with those race cars and what would it have hurt. I let my children play with what they want to play with and whom they want to play with. Through playing they learn. Maybe he will be a school teacher one day if that is where his interests are.
This is very typical of young kids. This doesn't really mean that he's transgender or anything. when I was little, I was a tomboy. I used to love doing things that boys do. I never ever played with dolls. Of course, I liked playing with boys all the time, because I could relate to them more. And, I never turned out to be transgender. This could ALL just be a phase. When I was little, I almost never played with girls unless they wanted to play kickball or something...But when I made it to middle school, some of the boys I used to play with when I was younger were less interested in me as a friend. But of course, one thing that I didn't like about playing with girls all of my life was how dramatic they were. As usual, it got worse in high school. And to this day, I still hang with a lot of guys. Perhaps when your son gets older he will get less interested in playing with the girls. Trust me, in middle school, it ALL will fall apart. And for the time being, let your son be himself.
First, you should be worried if he did not play "role" games, children learn through play, you cannot really do too much role playing with "masculine" toys....
My 5 year old son proudly rolled his pink stroller with Shrek stuffed doll strapped in into an autoparts store today:P I think it may have rubbed some macho patrons of the store a wrong way, but what you gonna do:)
And likes to prance around in my high heels from time to time....
Absolutely nothing wrong with that if you ask me:)
I totally agree with everyone here about kids play. Let him do or play with who he wants to. He is learning social skills. If you try to stop this type of play, it could turn out to be disastrous! I have 3 children and they play house, school, trucks and cars and so on. I have 1 girl and 2 boys. One of my children is special needs to boot and I believe it helps to teach him the social skills he needs. My children always play these games with each other though because the neighborhood we're in doesn't have any other kids living in it their ages. Don't worry about how your son is doing with interactions and stuff, he'll turn out to become a nice well rounded young man when he reaches adult hood. If he wants to dress up like a girl, laugh with him about it. In fact my daughter was pinning her little brother down last night and putting ponytails in his hair and we all just laughed about the situation. It was quite funny. My son thought it was really amusing and funny. He kept on asking her to put more ponytails in his head for about a hour last night. It kept him and her busy and OUT OF TROUBLE!! Good Luck.
I used to do the same thing. I am a 16 year old male, but I remember putting on my mother's shoes and tripping all over the place. I can certainly relate to Natta1980 when she says that Role playing games are hard to come by as a boy. I usually ended up playing with all the girls at school and getting laughed at by all the boys because I just wasn't interested in the sports that all the other boys were playing.
This doesn't mean that your son is gay at all. It just means that He is more of an introvert.
Alright, well, I'm thirteen, a boy, and I actually am sometimes mistaken for being feminine as well. I play with stuffed animals, dolls, cars and stuff like that, but that does not make me feminine. I think your child was being honest when he talked about "having a chest like daddy" for most children his age do such things to act like their parents (it is a form of respect and admiration).
All in all, your child seems pleased with his actions, and feels he is representing who he really is.
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