Hi there,
My question is I would say fairly simple, I am a 44 years old single mother who has remarried, I have a son and a daughter ages 20 and 18. My spouse also has children of various ages.
Now I am often at work all week, and as a result I do not get to see my kids as often as I would like, sometimes I don't get to see them at all for the entire week except for a small Hi/Goodnight before bed.
Now my spouse is an Orthodox Jew, and he attends Synagogue on Saturdays usually from 7:30 until 8:45 which leads me to my question.
During this hour and 15 minutes, my son often stays home so that he can spend time with me (And so that I am not alone all by myself), this usually involves us sitting down or laying on couches in the living room (not the same couch) just talking. While this seems perfectly fine to me, since I don't get to see my kids often during the week, my spouse has difficulty accepting this, claiming it is 'not a normal relationship' and his points were:
It is not normal for him to want to spend time with you instead of going out on a saturday
It is even more not normal that you want to spend time with him instead of being with friends or doing anything else
So I was hoping if someone could tell me, Is this normal/abnormal? is it not right to spend an hour a week with ones own child at that age? Should he want to spend time with his friends instead of talking to me? Is he just showing respect by not leaving me alone at home or is it something else?
Thank you very much for your time.