We have 3 yr. old that we are having tremendous problems with for what seems like forever and a day. We are totally out of options, and are in dyer need of help and answers. He is EXTREMELY SENSITIVE AND EMOTIONAL over everything you can think of. However, he doesn't throw tantrums when he doesn't get his way, its something different.
He is CONSTANTLY crying or whining over something. NOTHING makes him happy whatever you try. You could simply ask him to pick up a toy, or sit down, etc.,and he starts to cry. Then, if its something like we are about to talk to him, because he did something wrong, he starts screaming, then we are distracted by that that we just send him to his room.
Whatever you want to do with him, or talk to him about he starts to cry and whine. Then, when he is told not to do something, we correct him, then does it over and over and over again. As I stated its not tantrums, its constant crying, and whining. We have tried talking to him, and showing him what he did wrong, and that does not work. He will just cry the entire time, and scream where he cant hear us.
He is extremely sensitive when anyone tries to play with him, like his sister, and his 10 mo brother. Noone can play with him, and have a good time, because whatever you do, he is not happy with it and starts to cry. He is very aggresvie to his sister, and very abusive. I or his father have to leave the house, because its so bad, that we cannot take it anymore. We love him dearly, but are out of options. We are saying to ourselves that he will grow out of it, then he just gets worse.
We just don't understand how after 20 times of repeating of what to do or not to do, he still does it over and over. We have to walk on egg shells around him, we are actually afraid to talk to him, or be around him, because if we ask him something or to do something, he will cry and cry. We have tried everything to spanking to time outs, to corners, to hugging him, and explaining things to him, but nothing is working, it doesn't phase him at all.
He has brought me and my husband to tears because we don't know what else to do, we fear that its something that we are doing. We are afraid to take him anywhere, because of what will be next. I just don't believe that you can reason with a 3 yo, at least not this one. It took all that we had to post this question, because we thought we could handle it, but its putting a very big strain on my marriage, and my other children as well.
If you could help in any way it would be greatly appreciated. I look forward to hearing from you. What do we do?????
Thank you
Kristy