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Overly-Loving Behavior

My Husband and I have two little Grandsons that we are raising, twins, just turned 4 yrs old a few days ago, before turning 4, one decided that he loves me, wants to marry me (his Nanna) and take me to the Cinderilla ball, he is loving and kind and so forth, no odd behavior, his twin brother, a more quiet and docile child, now says the same thing, personally, I dont see anything wrong in this as many little boys want to marry their moms/grandmoms, and many little girls want to marry their dads/granddads at this age, but my 28 yr old son, (his uncle) who has no wife or children and little contact with children except his girlfriends son, says that it is weird and he feels that the boy obsesses too much on giving me hugs and kisses, marrying me and so forth, he said they are as loving and kissy and so forth to his girlfriend and she is uncomfortable with it, (actually, his girlfriend, whom we like, has a 5 yr old boy, said it, and my son only related it to me, but her son, to me, is somewhat aloof and coolish to others, indifferent)  I dont expect this stage in their lives to continue for long, they will soon want a cute little girlfriend at school/Sunday School, but for now, their Grandpa and I are their center.  We live on a rural ranch, train and raise horses, I was in Law Enforcement before retiring, and have had so many child development classes and so forth due to dealing with alot of abandonded and molested children in my career, so I am not without education in this area, but, please, help me clear this up. Sincerely Thanking You in advance for your assistance.
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This behavior is not particularly unusual in children this age. Sometimes it's necessary to set limits on the displays of physical affection if they become inappropriate or are indiscriminate and are off-putting socially. It's also important not to encourage the remarks, but simply to be patient and understanding and, in a casual fashion, remark that children don't get married to their grandparents. It's possible that the behavior is indicative of some insecurity, depending on the circumstances that resulted in your raising the children. But this is not necessarily so. If they seem to be developing well there's probably nothing to be concerned about.
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Thank you for your quick response.  I have been with these children since their birth.  Their Mom and Dad have lived with us since she was preg and had the twins, their Dad abandoned his little family almost a year ago, disappeared, and no contact since, and of course, they dont even remember him.  Their dear Mother is trying so hard, working many hours, and having such a hard time of it, and I have always been primary caretaker in their lives (and love it).  But, I do feel better that we are on the right track with this latest situation atleast.  We do set limits, there are no inappropriate or indiscriminate displays, nor would they be allowed, and considering my past career, I am conscious of using caution in these areas, but thank you for mentioning it.  I have explained to them that children dont marry their parents/grandparents, and in time, I imagine that this will pass for the next phase in their little lives.  Thank you so much for your help and Gods Blessings, your doing a wonderful service for so many.
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