Lots of good ideas from the above posters! I think the most important one is when Specialmom said, " I'd make it your mission to research this to understand as much about it as you can." You are going to be your child's main advocate for the next bunch of years. Not only may you have to explain to his teachers what he is going through, you also will have to explain it to him. So information is key. And by the way, if he does have ADHD, it has nothing to do with maturation. Yes, as he does age, he will gain more control, but that is not going to happen for awhile.
As Rockrose mentioned - teaching your son coping strategies is very important. But, many kids due to the frustration of ADHD learn the wrong kind of coping strategies - self medication, etc. So make sure that he is learning how to cope with his problems - both scholastically and emotionally.
A few suggestions. Your son's present teacher does sound like she knows what she is doing. Also, I don't think she wants a "perfect classroom," I have seen letters or emails from teachers that want the perfect classroom and they are very different then hers. Ask her opinion of the best teacher for him next year and make sure the principal is aware of the teacher you want. Chances are she will do this for you, but not all schools assign kids the same way and this is something too important to miss out on. His teacher next year is going to be very important!
Next, get a 504 plan going for him now (if possible). In the, "The ADD/ ADHD Answer book," by Susan Ashley, is a great section on 504 suggestions. Also, I highly recommend that you get this book anyway (only about $10 on Amazon and its the one I recommend on the ADHD forum). It will become your "bible" for many, many years to come.
Medication wise - kind of a toss up. For any child who needs the medication, starting is always trial and error to get the correct dose (as all kids and meds are different). So having a teacher that is well used to your child monitor his behavior changes (if any) does make sense. However, meds should really only be used if needed and it sounds like he will make it through this year. By the way, he does sound like a pretty sharp kid if he is reading and doing his math. You don't want to settle for him just getting by in the future, because I guarantee you that he will know he should be doing better.
Finally, here is one more site to check out. Oh, make sure you read the comments below. But also notice that under "parenting ADHD children", there are many more good ideas. The site is http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/683.html
I hope this helps. And if you have any more questions specific to ADHD, you can also always post on the ADHD forum. Best wishes.
Thanks RockRose for your insight and feedback, appreciate it. I agree with what you said about the writing. When we have homework sheets it's usually writing a few sentences and while my son may take awhile to do his homework and complain he doesn't want to do it, he does complete his HW and will write sentences, this is completed with my help, but I don't do the HW for him. I walk him through the sentences and he sounds out the words, etc. I think he's easily distracted in class and more concerned about what's going on around him than doing his work. We will keep an eye on things over the summer and see how he does in 1st grade. Thanks again
Thank you so much for your feedback and insight it truly helps to hear others opinions. I want to do what's best for my son and perhaps your right, take the summer to see how he matures and see what happens in 1st grade. I think as long as I keep in touch with the 1st grade teacher starting early on he won't fall too far behind! Thanks again !
First, I'm a little concerned with the terminology your doctor used - that the written assessment by the teacher is "positive" for ADHD. That sounds like he's describing a lab blood test, not a subjective description by a teacher who may or may not be exaggerating. Some teachers really like kids with mild ADHD, and it grinds on the last nerve of some teachers.
I wouldn't medicate him yet. If he still is succeeding socially (sounds like he is) and is getting by academically, I'd wait. My first son was put on Ritalin in Kinder, and took it through 5th grade when he decided he hated it and wanted to stop. He developed great strategies - sitting next to kids who were always on task so he could glance up at them and see what page he should be on, realizing he didn't write down the homework so he would call a friend in the class, etc. He's brighter than average and so he was able to get by - and how he's an emergency room nurse. And he's terrific at it.
I agree with getting your son OT during the summer - they can teach you exercises/strategies to use with him.
I'm also concerned about what they say about his writing. It doesn't seem like he has any trouble with the actual "writing" - he's quite willing to copy an adult's written word - he has a problem with "starting" and "composing". I've been a classroom mom forever, and have seen kids who just could NOT begin a written sentence when it was freeform. For example, if given a picture of a child picking apples, and the assignment is to write about the picture, it's FINE to write "I like apples too". Or "The boy looks like Jason". Any observation at all is fine - and letting the child know it doesn't have to be the most perfect observation to have done a good job on the assignment.
Best wishes. Personally, I like kids with ADD. In my family we say regular kids have attention surplus disorder. (I mean really, how can those kids stand doing the boring work day after day they're willing to plod through?) ;D
Hi there. Most kids of that age have friends and play on their minds and the ones who say they are there for school work are parroting their parents. Don't let it concern you that his social activities at school are things that dominate his idea of school. My kids still say gym is their favorite class!! They are good at school but gym is fun!!
So, I speak as a mother that has two sons, one that has sensory integration disorder which is very similar to add/adhd. (In fact, you can check it out if you like as it is often mistaken for add/adhd and is treated differently---- a good web site is Sensory Processing Disorder or SPD). We had issues with our boy as well. His diagnosis of sensory changed everything for us because we were able to fine tune what he needed to be successful.
Here is what I'd do if in your situation at this point--- I would indeed wait until next year to decide on medication. It is always there for you to try down the road. I'd, however, embrace that something more is going on and learn all you can about what it may be. If they are saying add/adhd, I'd make it your mission to research this to understand as much about it as you can. My son's issue as I mentioned were sensory. Sensory responds very well to certain kinds of physical activity. We had him doing those activities every single day. We also rearranged things at home to have 'practice' for what school is like. Example, we had a period of time each day in the summer in which he had to raise his hand in order to speak and could only do so after I 'called' on him. Sounds goofy but it helped a bit with practicing self control.
I would look around in your area for a hand writing workshop he can do. Occupational therapist offices often run these in the summer. My son had trouble with handwriting with the hallmark sign that this was difficult for him of avoiding it whenever possible. Your son could be the same. It may be hard so he just doesn't want to do it. If he learns/practices over the summer---- he may then not be so resistent to doing it next school year. I have activities you can try at home as well if you are interested and I like the "handwriting without tears' program that you can buy and do at home as well.
Your husband is off the mark in my opinion regarding his comments regarding medication. Again, I'd wait to try it too but . . . making the bare minimum to pass through isn't living up to one's potential. If he has what he needs (which down the road may turn out to be medication) to maintain focus, be able to concentrate, etc. he may do very well as opposed to just getting by. Not to mention the bigger problem of his teachers constantly being irritated (and trust me, I've been in these classrooms . . . the child that constantly needs redirection and one on one attention is difficult when trying to teach. It isn't about a perfect classroom but that why is that child not able to do what the rest of the kids are doing in the classroom and they are disrupting the flow for everyone else) and other kids as well. Kids get irritated with the out of the box child that is demanding of so much attention and disrupting their classroom time as a result. It will eventually affect his peer interaction and self esteen.
I'll write more later. must get to a soccer game. it will be fine. peace