Please Help

[cherlin8989]

My son is going to be 5 in october 2009. He just started kindergarten this september, and is having behavior problem since the first day. He is not listening to the professon, getting out of the class to walk on the hallway, etc. He is not making friends, and he is feeling sad because of that. At first, I though that it could be the new environment, new faces, etc. but it is being almost three weeks, and he still acting out. I already spoke with the teacher and the school  psychologist, and they are not very cooperative, they being calling me every single day to go and pick him up from school, which is making him feel really insecure. I told them not to call me every single time he does something 'cause he is feeling that everytime he wants to go home he start to act out so they call me. I don't know what to do with this situation, it is driving me crazy. I have try everything with him, from rewarding everytime he does something good to taking away things from him when he doesn't, but nothing had worked. I want to give him some time before having him evaluated, since he doesn't act like that at home. He has his tantrums once in awhile as a normal kid, but not like his acting in school. Please help me.

[91004]

My son is in Kindergarden and he just turned 5 this month. He is doing good. He is very quiet though. I don't know if this would work but what about you volunteering in the class a couple of days to see how he acts and how he communicates with the other kids and teacher. Maybe you being there and talking to some of the kids and introducing him.This will atleast give you an idea of what may be going on. Why is the school not disiplining him. I would think they should do something besides call you everytime. Maybe if he is out of control but not for walking out of the room.

When my son gets out of school I ask him did he make friends, did he talk to others, and did he have fun, who did he play with on the playground. Those type questions just to get an idea of how he thinks its going. Then I suggest that maybe he should talk to some of them and make some friends he has been going since the end of August and just now is starting to talk about the other kids by name. So it may take time for friends everyone is nervous its their first yr. there. Remind him talk to others in the class at recess or breaks. Help him with things at home. I know my son brings papers home so I review them and see what he knows. I have also hung papers in the kitchen that have the colors written on them and numbers and alphabet. When he walks to the kitchen I will get him to tell me what they are. Him starting school early don't have to be a bad thing it can prepare him for it he does have to repeat and if he does have to big deal he is younger than the others so it won't matter. That is how I see it with my son. He has amazed me tho he is doing so well. He can write his full name already.

[specialmom]

Your son is only 4 and not yet 5, correct?  In the US, our kids don't usually start this early.  He would usually have another year of preschool here.  He may not be mature enough or emotionally ready for kindergarten.

I would suggest talking to the teacher and see if their is a preK option he can do instead of kindergarten.  It would probably be in his best interest.  After that, evaluating behavior gives answers and hence opportunities to correct a situation.  But if the issue is developmental/emotional maturity----  time will help that.  good luck

Oh, and don't punish him.  Nothing more than a 5 minute time out for a bad day at school.  He may be doing the best he can and needs a safe place to come home to.