Please help me help my 4 year old little boy

[kirschy]

I recently found out my 4 and a half year old little boy is being bullied at preschool.
I have met with the head teacher aerial manager and coordinater of this preschool.
They have assured me they have put behaviour stratergies into place at the preschool for the bullies involved and as of this week are putting safe stratergies into place for my son and 5 other children that have been bullied by these boys.
I am meeting again at end of term hoping I see some signs that my son is enjoying preschool again.
I am though really concerned about my son who has started wetting his pants not sleeping the nights b4 preschool has become very clingy to myself if he can't see me becomes very distressed cries to the point he sobs b4 school and caught him on the weekend with his little kitten whom he loves more than anything and has never hurt b4 in the head lock punching it hard enough it was howling and he was telling the kitten it wasn't his fault.
I have tried numerous places to get him in to see someone 1 had an 8month waiting list another had 5months the closest apt I have been able to get is a month away.
I believe he needs to see someone now as its scareing me.
Please help me has anyone got any other suggestions.
Please please please

[margypops]

I agree with you that some help would be a good idea with these behaviors going on, input is always helpful,mean while it would be good to protect the kitty and make sure he isnt alone with her as animals are defenceless, he may have heard a lot of what has being going on with the bullies and the school ,you may have been speaking about it to friends and relatives, which is only natural in your concern for him, sometimes it is over load , so speak no more to him or in earshot of him about any of it. Play it down when he is upset try to ignore it he could be trying to get some attention this way, Focus on his positive side, lots of outside activities, get his Dad involved... ball games and fun,, Good Luck

[supermomma531]

He needs a way to release his anger. Get him one of those clown bounce back punching air things. I hope you know what I mean. Explain to him that this is the only thing that he is allowed to take his anger out on or just get him a pillow or something. Don't let him out of your sight if he is playing with the kitten. Always talking to him about his feelings and thoughts is a great idea so this way he knows that he can talk to you or his dad about his problems per say. Reassure him that none of this stuff that happened to him isn't his fault. Art therapy could help him as well. Putting his thoughts down on paper through coloring and or painting will help. Talking to a therapist is a great idea and like you said, you have to wait. Playing with lego  could also help. Keeping him busy. Having maybe a bear or something boyish can help to keep him feeling safe. I hope this will help you.

[kirschy]

Thanku so much for your greatly appreciated advice.....yes we have been talking about things but have stopped now when he is around.....never thught of getting him to draw or paint his feelings what a great idea. I know exactly what u mean by keeping him busy we have been doing that the last couple of days and it is starting to work....we have an apt on thursday to have him assessed and see where we go from here thanks to my gp....his preschool r now realising the effect it not only has had on my little boy but the other children as well and r taking things a little more serious that what they did in the start....
I believe now that everyone is starting to work together I will see signs of enjoyment on my little boys face again and I am so happy...
Thanku again for giving ways of occupying his little mind in the mean time.