Rage and Remorse,9yr old boy

[Dustinsmum]

My son is 9 years old and has always had temper issues.For a while it got better but recently, in the last few months things have esclated. He will act out in a uncontrolled rage where he is completely unreachable, he soon calms from that but is so extremely remorseful he has even threatened to kill himself.(major red flag) He thinks he is "stupid and messed up".He cries very easily,always has.His classmates will now provoke  him into a "fit"  they think it is funny to get the reaction and it often lands him in the principal's office.(The principal is trying to get me in touch with someone who could perhaps shed some light on the issue but so far I've not heard back...we live in a remote rural area) He now feels nobody likes him.He does very well in school and works beyond his grade four curriculum. He is a little short for his age and this bothers him a lot. It does not take much to trigger one of these episodes ..just being in his space if he doesn't want you there is enough to do it. When he is in the remorseful stage he calls himself down and even hurts himself physically as punishment.He has grounded himself from videogames,TV etc.

My question is ,could this at all be related to diet.Be it a blood sugar issue or a food sensitivity? Is this a psychological disorder? Depression?I do know that once he is calmed down I always make him drink a big glass of water and have a snack and he does a complete 180.

I am extremely concerned about my child. Any insights are greatly appreciated.Thank you.

[Dustinsmum]

I have an appointment to see a behavioral counselor on Oct1.The school set me up for that. I am also going to see our family doctor and try to see if it is something physiological. I am so frustrated and worried. I know he is a genuinely sweet natured boy and these outbursts are so very disturbing.

As far as the school goes they believe most of these episodes are unprevoked and spontaneous but I know through talking to them that they are all triggered.But sometimes the trigger is so minor it seems ridiculous to me that he reacts the way he does.

Thank you for your support in this.I'm at my wits end.

[woodhaven]

Hi, I feel for you because I can somewhat relate.  My 9 yr old boy puts himself down and also gets very angry at times and tries to hurt himself.  We have sent him to a counselor, but it did nothing I have to say.  He does do a complete turnaround also and is a sweetheart and a loving boy, but when he is corrected or told what to do he loses it! Anyway, I have been told it sometimes does have to do with what they eat and it does also have to do with depression.  My son has very low self esteem and we as parents needs to work on that day after day.  The parents of the kids at school need to aware of what is going on.  I believe these kids are not in H.S., they are 9, and we need to be involved.  These children at the school are a big factor in his self esteem.  I am no expert by all means, but I can relate a little of what you are going through and is so hard to see our children hurting and they are good children.  Have his  Dr. give you a referral to see a counselor so they can maybe talk to him and I will pray for him.  What about his counselor in school, is she aware of the kids in school and all that is going on?