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Re: Spoiled Rotten or Unfit Mother:You Decide!!
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Re: Spoiled Rotten or Unfit Mother:You Decide!!
by Heather__0__0, Jan 01, 1995 12:00AM
Posted By Heather on July 30, 1999 at 10:14:06
My daughter is 18 months old. I am really starting to believe that she has some "problem", let's say. She's always been the type of child who wants to get her way, but this is getting ridiculous. When she doesn't get to do something (i.e. go outside, jump off tables, etc.) she screams, falls to the floor and generally throws a fit. I can place this in the general category of a tantrum. But when this happens she also: pulls my hair and hits me in the face.
I have tried a stern "No." and screaming "NO!" and even hitting her hand. Nothing works. If I smack her hand, she laughs at me, or just proceeds to hit me again (same thing with the no's).
What is wrong here? Have I totally failed? Is she exhibiting normal behavior? Does she hate me? I really don't see her act his dramatically with anyone else in the family.
Thank you
Heather
My daughter is 18 months old. I am really starting to believe that she has some "problem", let's say. She's always been the type of child who wants to get her way, but this is getting ridiculous. When she doesn't get to do something (i.e. go outside, jump off tables, etc.) she screams, falls to the floor and generally throws a fit. I can place this in the general category of a tantrum. But when this happens she also: pulls my hair and hits me in the face.
I have tried a stern "No." and screaming "NO!" and even hitting her hand. Nothing works. If I smack her hand, she laughs at me, or just proceeds to hit me again (same thing with the no's).
What is wrong here? Have I totally failed? Is she exhibiting normal behavior? Does she hate me? I really don't see her act his dramatically with anyone else in the family.
Thank you
Heather
It is so destressing to me to hear that you are hitting your child, first of all. This will only teach your child (children learn by what adults DO, not SAY) that violence is OK when all else fails, or an ok way to get someone to do what you want. Secoondly, as a child psychology student and a former toddler and preschool teacher, I can tell you that your toddler is acting like a perfectly normal toddler for her age. I have never met a toddler who DIDn"T hit, pull hair, climb, slide, run... Please check in your area to see if you could take a course on child development. Since children don't come with instructions, many parents think children are disobeying when they are simply acting in ways that are age-approprate for their developmental stage. And again, I stress, hitting her will teach her to be aggressive and it will destroy the bond between the two of you. She is not a "spoiled brat" and you are not an "unfit mother". You are a conccerned mother who has little training in child developmental stages that has a perfectly normal toddler.
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