Regression for PT, temporary?

My 3 1/2 year old is finally potty trained!  Yeah! I have read numerous accounts of children going #1 but not #2...well that was my kid until two months ago when she kicked the habit.  By the way, I simply did it all.  She got a sticker on a map that lead to a special treat if she did it several times.  If she had an accident one big girl toy would be put away until she showed me she was a big girl.  Also she went to bed first(her 18 mon. brother got to stay up a little later than her).  Even though this sounds like a success story...it isn't.  On Sunday she had a problem in her church class. She got in trouble with her favorite teacher...they worked it out but she told us later that she wants to go to the baby class.  She has had about five accidents in two months and in the last three days has had at least four accidents a day!  She has no toys left.  We took her books out tonight.  I feel totally defeated.  It makes since...a new situation...a problem with her teacher so do I have to start all over?  She went on her own, wiped on her own, flushed and even washes her hands after.  Now she goes in her pants.  I don't act angry but I feel like pulling my hair out.  I know she knows that I am disappointed.  She also bit my husband yesterday and broke the skin.  I feel like her life is completely crazy help!

[Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D.]

It's important to be sensitive to how difficult changes can be for young children. While your overall strategy around toilet training (e.g., reinforcing the sort of behavior you wre seeking) was sensible, you were actually a bit too severe in the application, resulting in a punitive, rather than supportive, approach to the current stress in your daughter's life. Back up a bit, adopt more patience and reassurance, restore your daughter's belongings, and then rely on rewards for successful accomplishment, and it'll be fine.

[chache]

This is me again...thanks for the advice...I care far more about my relationship with my daughter than anything else.  I guess my strategy worked the first time but this time I need to try something else.  One of my friends even suggested that I wasn't harsh enough with her.  I am so glad that I didn't listen to that.  Thanks again I'll let you know how things work out.