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Rude Adult Step children
I have 3 step children from my marriage of 4 years. Since my husband and I begin dating his kids have had issues with me. They are all grown adults. I have tried so hard to have them like me. I cook all their favorite meals when thay visit, I babysit when possible, I have given them money, I have fond them homes and helped with jobs. None of these things their Mom would help them with. She left the family when the youngest was 16 for another man. She later married and now divorced and n the 3rd other man. I have tried so hard to only be treated so mean and rude. Yesterday was the end for me....the one son which has treated his Father so badley and rude since I met them. Was so ugly and mean to me, to the point of yelling and cursing at me and and I yelled back and I was in tears. My husband was wuite for awhile then said to his son "Do not be so rude to her". I was as hurt with his remark as I was wth the son....I felt my husband should have stood up for me and not have allowed this treatment from his son to his wie that did not deserve it at all.
Please elp me and tell me what I need to do.
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Sorry for all the miss spellings.....I never proff anything before sending.
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973741 tn?1342346373
It sure sounds like you've tried with your step children.  You know, my father remarried after my mother's death (twice) and I wasn't so happy about it, I am ashamed to say.  I never treated the woman badly and was polite, but I was cold.  As time went on, I became less so because I moved past what was bothering me (missing my mom, replacing her, etc.)  Even though I was an adult, I still was childlike in my response to my dad and his life.  I'm over that now, and I only want the best for him and for him to be happy.  So what I am trying to say is that his step children sound like even though they are adults, they are emotionally immature.  You should consider having a talk with your husband----  they should NOT be rude to you.  And he should stand with you on this.  You've been nice and accepting to them,  they can be immature but not abusive.  I'd put an end to that behavior via your husband.  And then I would continue to be polite to them.  You sound too nice to treat this way forever.  Good luck and I hope they see the light!!
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My husband is the same way. Blood is thicker than mud. His daughter has  manipulated him to a tea. Now she doesn't even let me be a grandmother to her kids. Well she is going to have a rude awakening because I have decided to draw the line here. She is 16 older than her sisiter and if she wants to treat me with disrespect I can do the same to her. The next time she wants to have our daughter spend the night or go on an outing with her kids, my grandson's the answer is going to be no. She will have to find the answer and hopefully she will get the picture that she can not exclude me from the family. I have been married to her dad for 11 years and have known her for 22 years!
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I have know his kids since the youngest one was 2 his children still 20 years on don't listen to me , what ever I say is wrong, and he agrees with them.his X is still in there life's . She got very jealous then the baby called me mummy, and as she got to 7 was told not to call me mummy any more .It wasn't me that walk out on there not here and 4 children
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I go to there places, they just talk to there dad about things going on they don't include me if I say anything I'm wrong. I think I have decided after 20 years to stop going with him up to see them.the grandchildren are 5.7and are not aloud to call me Nan its by my first name only. There Real Nan has told them to dope on each other's if one calls me Nan.they spend all the school holidays with us.
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