My 8 year old daughter has always hated to be separated from her parents. She had a rough first 2 weeks in the first grade, but was fine after that (now in 2nd grade). She was recently home ill for a week and upon return to school was very depressed and crying everying morning and during the day. She wouldn't play with friends after school (not normal) and lost weight(would hardly eat)over her worries about school. When I would ask her what was worrying her about school her reply was that everything about school was worrying her. Well, that lasted for 7 days and now she's back to normal. Her teacher is concerned that she will have a very hard time going into the third grade since she has been in the same class for 2 years (1st and 2nd split class). She hates getting invited to sleep overs and birthday parties, because she is afraid to be without her parents. This is effecting her self esteem, she feels different from the rest of the kids who love to go to birthday parties and sleepovers. She would love to be able to go, but cannot get past the fear. I hate to see her left out of these events, but I do not want to push her into going. How do I get her past this? Will it get worse or fade with time? I want her to be able to take risks and enjoy life, but I fear that her anxieties will interfere. I was a very anxious child and suffered from low self esteem because of my worries. I want it to be different for her...I want her to learn how to cope with these anxious feelings. I have an appointment with a therapist, but I'm not sure if it's a good idea, I don't want her to feel like there is something wrong with her. I've talked with her about seeing someone and she seems fine with it. Any suggestions?
P.S. Our home life is very happy and stable. I am a stay at home mom.