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Sexual abuse or not
I recently turned my 14 year old nephew into child protective services for exposing and fondling his penis in front my 5 year old grandaughter. He kissed her and asked her if she knew what his penis does. The whole process of turning him in to CPS not to mention the total split in my family has left me unsettled and not really knowing if this was abuse or not. The whole case was dropped by CPS and we have been left feeling like we did the wrong thing. I will never allow my nephew into my home again but am at a loss as to where I go from here. I feel like CPS left me holding the bag.
I was abused by my step-brother and no one knew. I was 10. Now I'm almost 30 and just in the last year, I'm trying to understand. It messes you up- mentally, emotionally, and sexually. I can't even have a stable relationship because of what happened to me- lost my best friend and the man I was truly in love with because of it. If you can- prevent AMYTHING from happening because in some way you WILL save her life.
I am going through something similar to this right this very moment. But I have been lucky. CPS has been wonderful for me. My hat is off to you for your outrage. This happened between my son and my daughters. I cannot tell you what I am going through emotionally right now. I wonder sometimes if I will ever be able to forgive him. My family too is forever divided. My son is with my parents right now. He is not allowed any contact with my daughters until a recommendation is made by a therapist. I do know that he will not live with us again though. I don't care how much counseling he may have to go to. Not a chance I am willing to take. I urge you to keep the lines of communication open with your granddaughter and make sure that she does understand (even though she says it was funny) that what he did was wrong. We had that talk several times with my daughters. As I said, my family is forever divided and I don't even have any desire to speak to my parents because I felt like they didn't take it seriously enough. I resent them a lot right now. I don't know if I can ever forgive them either. Please, God help us.
call your local police department now. going though the same thing with my 3yr old granddaughter. i went through the cps and was getting nowhere until i became such a sorry to say ***** and calling and asking what is being done and when will my grandaughter get the chance to talk to a professional to see if this did happen and is now going to counseling. it happened and you need to protect others that it may happen to. don't wait be persisient do not give up and someone will listen for your help
You are so right and I am going to do what I can. I am so sick of all this. thank you so much.
I remember it as a bad experience because of the way it was handled. I have a wonderful relationship with my parents, and I don't mean to criticize them, but it was years before I was able to understand the way they reacted to the situation. I resented them for a long time because the only thing that happened was there was an initial blow-up, my dad and his brother didn't speak for years, and it was all otherwise swept under the rug. No one stood up and did the right thing, which was to A- let me know that what happened to me was wrong but NOT my fault (my uncle basically put the blame on me, like I was a 5-year old little temptress), B - hold my cousin accountable for what happened and C - take measures to protect other children from this predator.
Which leads me to my main point - you need to do something to protect other children before the behavior escalates and a little girl is raped or a boy is sodomized because you wanted to sweep the problem under the rug and not cause any further waves in the family.
Which leads me to my main point - you need to do something to protect other children before the behavior escalates and a little girl is raped or a boy is sodomized because you wanted to sweep the problem under the rug and not cause any further waves in the family.
When this happened to you as a child, do you remember this as a bad experience or just a memory?. Did no one even address it when you were a child or did you not tell anyone? I feel like alot was made of this. And want my granddaughter to just forget that it happened and not remember as a awful thing. She actually thought it was funny. She told us during dinner. My daughter is very angry. This young man has distroyed a loving and large family with his minute of (fun????)
When I was 5, I was molested by my 13-year-old cousin. He left sucker bites all over my chest. He went on to sexually abuse many other children until he finally was caught and landed in prison. Now he is on a sexual predator list.
You can push the issue with CPS. In most states, if there is a greater than 4-year age difference in the children, it is considered sexual abuse. Don't let the stress in your family stop you, because you will never know how many children will be abused before he finally gets caught.
You can push the issue with CPS. In most states, if there is a greater than 4-year age difference in the children, it is considered sexual abuse. Don't let the stress in your family stop you, because you will never know how many children will be abused before he finally gets caught.
u did the right thing by turning him in, cps doesnt want to do there job. i am sorry to say but the people that work in cps are dumb ***. he is a very sick 14 year old that needs help. if you want to **** some people off call your congressmen, and senator. department of social service doesnt like that at all.
it makes me so mad that we are trying to protect our children and this goverment doesnt have are backs.
by the way i have 3 children and my oldest was molested my his aunt. i couldnt do anything cause of the age, but i pissed alot of people off in the process. keep rattling the cage someone will get tried of it and listen to you.
good luck and god bless you and your grandbaby
it makes me so mad that we are trying to protect our children and this goverment doesnt have are backs.
by the way i have 3 children and my oldest was molested my his aunt. i couldnt do anything cause of the age, but i pissed alot of people off in the process. keep rattling the cage someone will get tried of it and listen to you.
good luck and god bless you and your grandbaby
I'm not sure what to say either. But the most important thing is the safety of your granddaughter. 14 is plenty old enough to know right from wrong, and he knew it was wrong and he purposely took advantage of your granddaughter. Do not have any feelings of guilt. I'm sorry your family is split and you are feeling unsettled, you absolutely did the right thing. More than likely, it is not the first time he has taken advantage of a small child.
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