Sexually odd behavior for my 3 year old

[Nurse2011]

First of all I have a concern for my 3 1/2 year old daughter...Recently I have caught her touching her private area with a viberating back massager...As far as I know, she is not aware that it can be used in a sexual manner...I am not sure if she just some how discoverd that it "felt good" there or what but it has been bothering me....I know children can be sexually curious but I am not sure about at 3 1/2 years of age....She has Never said anything or done anything sexually strange like this...I don't wanna jump to the conclution that something bad happend and think I am possibly over reacting considering sexual abuse is a GREAT fear of mine for my children and that I was sexually abused as a child. She has also been caught undoing my 1 1/2 year old sons diaper and looking at his penis....Is it sexual curiosity or could something have happend? I am botherd.

[Smandy]

Hey everyone, some of you may be interested to know that there is a medical condition (about which little is known and that few people are aware of) where a person (from childhood) experiences constant, stimulating bloodflow to the genitals.  This means that it isn't difficult to discover that rubbing feels good, and once discovered, rubbing is the only release from constant pressure in the genitals.  

I suffer from this condition and have been masturbating since I was three with literally no ability to stop.  Please don't think less of your children because of this.

[Smandy]

Hey everyone, some of you may be interested to know that there is a medical condition (about which little is known and that few people are aware of) where a person (from childhood) experiences constant, stimulating bloodflow to the genitals.  This means that it isn't difficult to discover that rubbing feels good, and once discovered, rubbing is the only release from constant pressure in the genitals.  

I suffer from this condition and have been masturbating since I was three with literally no ability to stop.  Please don't think less of your children because of this.

[jonkenwoelig]

hi, i agree with some of the comments here. But i think most people are missing the fact that children arent stupid. They know what they are doing. They maybe dont understand the conseqeunces but they do know what they are doing. I caught my daughter doing weird things . Tho she was 6 at the time. Namely running around the house naked. Now its normal , i know. But she would sit like on someones lap facing them and then open her legs and tell them to look. Now normally its with me and i tell her not to. But she had done this with a neighbour. I ignored it till the neighbour had left and then i gave her a hiding. Never the less she stopped. Actions speak louda then words i say. Today she is 12 and we share a good bond. The only thing that worries me now is her libia's. Her vaginal lips are kinda biggish and if she wears a bikini it shows badly. We went to the beach oneday and it made her feel like a freak as she put it. Now she doesnt wear panties cause it discomforts her, so at school we had an incedent where she tripped and fell and her dress exposed her. So now we forced her to wear sweatsuit pants.So ya never a dull moment.

[smash400]

Hi I just want to give you a little bit of comfort about your daughter! As embarrassing as it may be I too used to do this as a child. And I swear i remember doing it at 3. I used to go and hide and "hump" my hands. I was never touched or molested in any way. And I also never saw older mens genitals. I think it is normal little girl behavior. They simply get curious about the area and then notice something feels good and dont know its wrong. I wouldnt yell at her or punish her because I swear she will find any way possible to do it! Just tell her not to do it in public!

[jess_bear]

I have also done this for as long as I can remember. The difference is that my parents and older sisters use to shame and humiliate me about this as I'm guessing a way to get me to stop. Which i eventually did when i was about ten. I don't think they realised then that the emotions they attached to this wierd childhood behaviour are now linked to the way i now feel about sex and particularly masterbation and have had to have years of therapy to work through this. I think trying to teach your kids that your private parts are private and should only be touched in private would have been a better strategy.

[katiebuggers]

ok, this is a little weird, but I think unique and important. I did the same thing as a child. I was NOT molested, I was the oldest child, I was very sheltered, I went to a Catholic school where there was no sex education, I didnt even know how sex worked till I met my husband. I thought I had cut my bottom when I got my period (thats how much I knew about sexuality)

SO my point is, I am a perfect case to look at. I dont have any mental problems (no depression or anything like that) I grew up pretty normal. I know I did it since I was at least 4 (I know this because I remember doing it in our old house, and we moved when I was 5) I dont know why I started doing this. I think your girls will be fine.  DONT spank her, dont punish her, she doesnt understand why she does it either, My mom yelled at me once for it when I was quite young, and I didnt understand AT ALL and it just scared me very bad. When I was a bit older I tried to stop, but never could.

[mommafox]

I have the same concerns. My daughter has been humping since 14 months. We began to notice her "rubbing" herself after she became ill and was put on an Amoxicil. My husband and I immediately suspected some type of sexual abuse. We took her to the doctor, she was examined( for sexual abuse), and she had a yeast infection. The doctor told us that the yeast infection caused her discomfort, which caused her to "rub". After realizing that "rubbing" felt good she has continued to do so. She has just turned three and I will say that it is a very uncomfortable situation for a parent to be in. My husband and I DO NOT create the sexual "environment", she DOES NOT see her father's "business" ,and we continue to redirect, but again we will find her....any other suggestions?

[bruster]

I have been having simaler problems with my 3 1/2 year daughter and I am at the end of my rope.  I thought that it was just curiosity but l am really worried.  If you have learned any thing I would love to know.

[beauty9023]

My g.son is 3 and in my opinion is being molested by his 16 yr old sister. He wanted to insert his finger into his sister's vagina, to ride her as a horsey, is having problems sleeping, has no clothes on in the mornings when he awakens, and has continuous strep throats.

What can I do without alienating my daughter who seems oblivious to all this? What should I say and to whom?

[margypops]

It is possible she has seen someone do that perhaps check who she is alone with, some behavior at a young age is normal but when something unusual happens it could be copied, could she have seen anyone who has access to your bathroom? check out avenues in case there is a problem.