Showing un-interest in schooling and eating during school days

[batchakamal]

My daughter six years old, not showing interest in going school and also eating / drinking during school days.

She started her pre-nursery in this school in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia and then we moved to India where she continued her nursery and preparatory (LKG and UKG). Again we moved back to Riyadh after two years of stay in India, and we admitted her in Grade 1. During this transition she stayed at home for nearly six months in India.

Once arrived back to Riyadh, she was showing very much interested in joining school. We applied and she had written admission test for many schools, and finally we got admission in the same school where she started her pre-nursey, but now in Grade 1.

From the beginning she is not showing interest in going school, except the first day she returned home with happiness. Now everyday she is not eating / drinking when he starts his day to school; most of the times she is vomitting whether she eats/drinks or not eats/drinks; also not eating well in the school during break hours. Her school starts at 7:30 AM and she return to home at 3 PM. She started her food only at 3PM since last night. Her mother feeds her, otherwise she will take one and half hour to complete her lunch. Samething happening in dinner also. Overall she is not happy during these days; but she is securing good marks in all subjects, interested in doing home works, her teacher telling that she is very good in studies. Also her teacher complaining that she is not eating fast and she said she is caring her much by all means. My daughter also telling that she liked her teacher much.

Somedays, if we said not to go to school because of her health / attitude then her face will change to normal (or happiness) but she will act like she is interested to go to school, till she get confirmed that she is not going school.

During the school week ends, she eats well, drinks well, play well..and she is happy.We bought whatever she wants during the week-ends like puzzle games, cendrella stories etc.

Regarding her behavior, she never talks open minded. She wants to be the best in all places. She has possesive attitude.

We tried our best to get what wrong with her by all means; sometimes we scolded, threatened etc. Also we tried more politely, softly...nothing worked out.


How can we change her to show interest in school?

Please give me the telephone number to call you from Riyadh, Saudi Arabia.

I tried my best to explain her issues, but if I talk then I can give more details.

Please help us, we are very much depressed.

Regards
kamaludeen

00966-507578354
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[jdtm]

It appears to me that your description of your daughter is that of a child suffering from anxiety - perhaps separation or social.  I doubt if she is not interested in school or eating during school days - she is just "too scared" to feel comfortable at school (even to eat).  These are common behaviours to children suffering from anxiety as is the stomach upset in the morning and the perfectionism at school.

Your words -"We tried our best to get what wrong with her by all means; sometimes we scolded, threatened etc. Also we tried more politely, softly...nothing worked out" - if anxiety is the issue, then, of course, these methods will not work.  Anxiety is a chemical imbalance in the brain (and not a result of life experience) and so the only thing that would work is to deal with this "chemical imbalance".  This is why you should seek out a physician with experience in anxiety issues.  This does not mean "medication" - in fact, intervention and/or therapy are often the methods used for young children to seek ways in which to lessen the anxiety.  By the way, anxiety is very common in young children (as well as highly treatable)..

There is lots of information on the internet re this topic - I might suggest you google the phrase "anxiety in children" or "school and anxiety" or similar words/phrases.  Also note that at the bottom of your posting there are listed "other related discussions" which might also offer more insight and information.   I wish you the best ...