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I am at my wits end!!! My 9 (almost 10) year old son has been stealing from me. To the tune of over $250. I am a single mother with a 4 year old girl as well. This all started about a month ago. A new kid came into the neighborhood and ultimately has a problem with stealing. My son started taking money out of my purse - approx $210 - and thats not counting my "cash stash" which I keep in a fire box - he showed his friends where my cash was - mind you locked up, but they found the key. Over spring break - 2 of the kids came over and took over $200. Cleaned me out. This was when I found out that my son had been stealing from me as well. My son had taken another $40 - $50 out of the lock box.
I CANT EVEN LOOK AT HIM!!!!!! I let up on the restrictions thinking that since he had done all of his chores this weekend without me asking - and did them well too I might add - that it would be a good thing for us to spend some time together. We went to a birthday party - then went out on a friends boat on Sunday.
He stole from me this morning - and today... and I am just at my wits end. I went as far as to take him up to our local police department to have them attempt to scare him... He litterally sat there like he could care less...
His life is awful right now. He has no one to take care of him and love him after school, and welcome him home with a big smile and a hug. There is a saying that children who steal things, are using those things to plug up holes in their hearts.
You kicked him out of your van, which was his afternoon "home" - to where?? Did you just leave him homeless?
This is a 9 year old boy who needs a mommy who greets him at the end of the day. A loving home. Not some van in a parking lot where there is no one.
A new kid came into the neighborhood and ultimately has a problem with stealing. - your words
Wondering - is this new kid threatening your son and is your son using the money "to pay him off"? The things in the backpack - who were they for (especially the two bottles of coke)? I don't think we have the whole story here - just wondering ....
Hi, I can see where you are coming from. I don't think taking privileges away will do anything to him. Once they find out nothing bad happens to them after stealing, they will keep doing it, and it doesn't matter how old are they. I remember a neighbor of mine, she actually called the cops and that did it for the kid, he never stole money from her again because he actually got a taste of what happens when you steal. Also counseling or sometimes even bootcamp will help. Call the police and ask them what can you do in this cases, when your own son is stealing from you, I bet you they have a solution. Also talking to the parents of the other kids, having a restraint order and if they are in your house you will call the cops, that also will, somehow, help. I know you are upset at him but something has to change in his life for him to change.
take him to juvi and itll straitend him out, whip his *** with a belt to show him your the boss and hes not, take controll, juvi will be best, he may act like he doesnt car but he does
your a hippie ******* he needs disipline, even she shows him nothing but love and gives his privledges back itll just tell him everything hes doing is ok.
His life is awful right now. He has no one to take care of him and love him after school, and welcome him home with a big smile and a hug. There is a saying that children who steal things, are using those things to plug up holes in their hearts.
You kicked him out of your van, which was his afternoon "home" - to where?? Did you just leave him homeless?
This is a 9 year old boy who needs a mommy who greets him at the end of the day. A loving home. Not some van in a parking lot where there is no one.
My heart bleeds for him.
At some point, I'm thinking CPS may be called to your home to look at your situation. Or anyway, hopefully they will be called.
Wondering - is this new kid threatening your son and is your son using the money "to pay him off"? The things in the backpack - who were they for (especially the two bottles of coke)? I don't think we have the whole story here - just wondering ....