Sleep Pattern

[graham102]

My daughter is 19 months old, when she was first born I lived at home with my parents and she just pretty much always slept in bed with me. When she was about 5 months her father and I got married and once we were moved over there, she would start out sleeping in her bed but but then when she woke up in the middle of the night I would just move her into our bed. Where she slept the rest of the night. Well now that she is much bigger, and I am now 8 months pregnant. I want her in her own bed, mommy's not sleeping anymore! I deffinetly can't take her and a newborn in our bed, so I need her out before this new little girl arrives. I have tried just letting her cry but she doesn't stop crying and fall asleep, she just continues to cry. My husband sleeps like a rock and nothing wakes him up so for my sake I need her to start sleeping through the night. But I feel as though I have ruined her. We need a solution and fast!

[nikki827]

Im sorry i not only posted twice but commented to the wrong mommy, that comment was for nicsgonmad.

[nikki827]

Please don't worry about your daughter, my son was the same way. he hasn't napped since he was two and is very hyper but healthy. They think they are gonna miss something if they take a nap. Try to read to her in her room. Try soft lighting and vey calming sounds. Play in her ahir or rub her back. They just need help calming themselves. My son along with being hyper has chronic asthma, so i just lay with him if he is having a hard time. Just don't allow her to get in your bed.

[nikki827]

Please don't worry about your daughter, my son was the same way. he hasn't napped since he was two and is very hyper but healthy. They think they are gonna miss something if they take a nap. Try to read to her in her room. Try soft lighting and vey calming sounds. Play in her ahir or rub her back. They just need help calming themselves. My son along with being hyper has chronic asthma, so i just lay with him if he is having a hard time. Just don't allow her to get in your bed.

[peskysmom]

you might try taking her to the store and letting her pick out a new "big girl" bedding set.  It really helped with mine.  It's worth the shot.

[nicsgonmad]

i am glad to hear that im not the only mother of a 2yr old who feels helpless at bedtime,my 2yr old has always had problems with geting into a sleeping pattern..she will not sleep in her own bed and she will scream non stop & makes it even harder to ignore as i have an 11yr old& 13yr old who need there sleep as they have school in the morning so its unfair for to be woken by her. There is an 11yr age gap between them &she has been spoiled. however recently ive noticed that she seems to put herself under a terrible amount of stress and strain when fighting to go to sleep,she awakens at 7.30 each morning&demands her breakfast & very occasionally will have an hours nap in the afternoon,this is not to often though but im beginning to get concernd as being up from then untill maybe 7.30pm is a long day and into the bargain she is awakening maybe 2 or 3 times during the night. this cannot be healthy for her and is quiet worrying,she is a very active bright child who maybe slightly hyperactive at times...i would appreciate any help or advise on how to sort this out as i am beginning to suffer from lack of sleep myself as like other mothers my partner sleeps like a log...please please help

[graham102]

nikki827 thank you for the advice. She has a kitty and a blanket she is really attached to, I will stop putting her in bed with us. And good luck to you as well.

[nikki827]

My son is having some issues with the pregnancy as well. Its the smell and the warmth of mommy and daddy. Just don't let her in your bed at all for sleeping. when its time for bed put her souly in her bed. Buy her a special blanket or a teddy. My son has both. Maybe a fancy night light. I bought the baby a lullaby CD maybe that would work for her. Good Luck. Just be glad she isn't in kindergarten and having behavior problems and urinating on herself.

[graham102]

Thank you, I will try both of those. She just has such an attachment to me right now I think because I am pregnant. The stange thing though, is that about 2 months ago, out of no where, she started sleeping through the night. I didn't do ANYTHING! It lasted about 2 weeks of her just solid sleeping through the night. I was in heaven! And now all of the sudden its back to waking up. And if she falls back asleep in my bed, sometimes we will try to move her back to her bed, but somehow she knows. She could be in the deepest sleep and her eyes will pop right back open. I am just miserable. Especially being pregnant, I am really starting to get freaked out.

[nikki827]

My son is five and stopped co-sleeping last year. Try laying her down in her room, read her a story or pat her back until she falls asleep. When she falls asleep go to bed, in the middle of the night when she wakes up leave her in her bed but pat her back to sllep. As long as you keep bringing her to your bed she will continue. you have time to break her habit before the baby comes. Congrats on the baby i am due on Thanksgiving day. Go butterball.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[mrscalalb]

OMG that felt like reading about my 4 year olds sleeping patterns up until a year ago...when he was an infant he nursed soooooo much at night that I had him in bed with me so I could get some sleep....then it continued after he was weaned. He just couldn't stay asleep in bed alone.  try using a tape recorder to record your sleep sounds, and before yuo go to bed turn on the tape in her room, low volume of course, but maybe just the sound of you being near will help her.  Another thing to try is getting your 'smell' on one of her blankets, which she can then keep in her bed to help her feel like you are with her.  It worked for us.

Good Luck